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Originally posted by AOPIHottie
When I was 18/19 I always thought I wanted to married and have a child by the time I was 22. Well, that didnt happen(I am 27 now, and divorced) All these years I wanted kids but I knew I was NOT ready-emotionally, financially- for kids. And now, my boyfriend and I are both very financially secure, we own a house, cars paid off, great jobs, very much in love and happy. We are at a place where 'society'(meaning our families ) Think we should be married and popping out the grandkiddies. But, we just dont want kids right now! I always saw myself as the 'soccer/cheerleader mom' but I dont see it now. I want a happy marraige first, then a happy family! But I agree that people who dont WANT kids should not have them, and POSSIBLY resent the kids for a long time. I agree it just contributes to the problems!
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I think it's awesome that you're committed to working and making sure you have a happy marriage first. Sometimes people forget that part and just go straight to popping out the kids and then there's no telling what could happen next
I have a friend who is 27 and just about to get married for the first time and the first thing on her mind (besides the wedding of course) is popping out kids. More power to her if that is what she wants.
Personally I would want some time alone w/ my husband first, but that's just me
