When I was 18/19 I always thought I wanted to married and have a child by the time I was 22. Well, that didnt happen(I am 27 now, and divorced) All these years I wanted kids but I knew I was NOT ready-emotionally, financially- for kids. And now, my boyfriend and I are both very financially secure, we own a house, cars paid off, great jobs, very much in love and happy. We are at a place where 'society'(meaning our families
) Think we should be married and popping out the grandkiddies. But, we just dont want kids right now! I always saw myself as the 'soccer/cheerleader mom' but I dont see it now. I want a happy marraige first, then a happy family! But I agree that people who dont WANT kids should not have them, and POSSIBLY resent the kids for a long time. I agree it just contributes to the problems!