I could get my mother to understand that we just CAN'T get along. That we are two different people. That she needs to grow up. That I am more of an adult than she is. That no matter what, she needs to get her act together. That it is too late to be a "mother" to me or my siblings. That she needs therapy. That no matter how hard I try to make a connection to her, SHE is the one that deadens (is that a word?!) it. That her mouth is going to write a check that her azz can't cash. That NONE of us (her 3 kids) can stand her. That this is ALL her fault. That help is there and so is God. That I pray that she gets herself together and that NOTHING will be right until then.
I guess I better stop now. I am happy for all those who love their mothers and have great relationships with them. I used to be hopeful that I would be able to say that one day, but as hard as I have tried and as much as I have been hurt in the process, I just don't care for it now.
Sorry if this is not quite what the thread is about, but it helped me release somethings. All of which I have said to her before.
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