We have known each other for many many years - we had been best friends since 6th grade. The underlying problem is that 1. she has a boyfriend back home and 2. that she doesn't want to be here. She wants to get married - she spends all her time with him OR (and this is really odd) with her cousins who live in town. She does this because she knows how much I disapprove of her life choices - ie skipping classes to see her b/f, lying to family, etc. And I've caught her lying to me (and about me) several times. Every time I try to talk to her, she tells me that I am mothering her and that she can make her own choices... blah blah. So I have given up! I don't think she'll be back next year - there is a college near her boyfriend and I wouldn't be suprised if she ends up married and taking a class or two. The only reason she came here in the first place was that it was what you were supposed to do. After you graduate - you go to college. She joined a sorority because - and this is exactly what she said - she wanted to all the losers who stayed home to be jealous. She came in with a bad attitude - she is unhappy and isolated, but only because she made herself that way! Remember, she's the one not taking calls (from anybody) and not spending any time on campus or with anyone but her boyfriend. I would love it if she gave people her cousin's number so they could get in touch with her there, but she has run from things that she didn't like for as long as I've known her!
I agree about college students going through a lot of crap. My Freshman year would be perfect if I didn't have to deal with this! But I still would be interested in the whole Phi Mu thing - how do they react to something like that.
Allie
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