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Originally posted by AGDee
Apparently none of you have ever realized you were making a huge mistake three days before your wedding, bawling your eyes out in your apartment because you don't know how to stop this huge $20,000/ 400 guest wedding machine. I wish I'd disappeared, instead of marrying the jerk and putting up with his abuse for a year before filing for divorce and getting nailed big time financially. Some of you assume that all families are functional and would take a wedding cancellation in stride and be supportive. Not all are.
Why, after she went to such lengths to avoid this wedding, would the father say that they would reschedule it? Do you think someone who would say that would have been supportive if you'd told him you wanted to call it off a week before the wedding? How many people are told "Oh, it's just cold feet" and push them to go through with it? If you have any hesitancy at all, you should NOT go through it. If the only way to do that is to disappear, then you disappear. It isn't against the law for an adult to go away without telling anybody. But, don't make up a story about being abducted either. That part was wrong.
Dee
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The girl next door to my parents got married the same month I did. At the wedding, her father said to my parents, "Lori asked me to call it all off last night! Can you believe it? I told her that I already had too many deposits down, and she had to do it!"
My parents were stunned. Lori (who is absolutely gorgeous, yet so sweet!) had already survived a form of cancer, and we had also heard her fiance verbally abuse her. If she wanted to call it off, she had good reasons.
I promised myself that day to NEVER force a child of mine to marry, under any circumstances!
But back to this particular scenario - again, honesty would have served her well. Had she been like Lori, and asked her dad to call it off, or sat down with her fiance and asked him to postpone or cancel the wedding, I'd be in her corner. What she did was cowardly and cruel.