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This is a tough one.
On the one hand, I think my first instinct is to say that you do not need to be with this man. If he had told you the truth about it right away and explained it would be no thing, but...Internet cheating is still cheating and a violation of your trust. THis is a serious breach of trust.
BUT
This is a four year relationship, right? Have there been a lot of problems previously? His past behavior is the only way you can evaluate this situation. If he has never given you a reason to be suspicious, you might want to give this less weight, but if this is part of a pattern of disrespectful behavior you might want to let this man go about his own business.
In any case, I would say that y'all need to take a short "break" and evaluate the status of your relationship. Is he really ready to get married? Or to even be engaged? It doesn't sound like it, but you guys can figure that out together.
Good luck.
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