I absolutely agree with mccoyred and prdlocal. A little discretion goes a long way, but I would never expect someone to not do something which they want to do (which is legal, etc.) if they want to. Outdated ideas of womens' morality are stifling and while we want our members to be of high standards, it is up to us to decide what high standards are. To me, high standards would be to be discreet about it, but not to be ashamed. There is absolutely no reason to broadcast it, but being in a sorority is not about putting rules on yourself that any average law-abiding woman would find ridiculous. I would suggest you try to have some sort of roundtable at your chapter where everyone tries to come to some consensus on what kind of standards need to be upheld and the balance of personal freedom vs. reflecting poorly on others you are associated with. You, as an older member, will be able to get this started and encourage honest dialogue amongst chapter members. Then, if a skilled facilitator is able to bring some resolution, everyone agrees to it and there is no grumbling behind backs or yelling in chapter meeting!
Good luck and let us know if you find something effective!
[This message has been edited by SuperXO (edited March 06, 2001).]
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