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Okay, I am a woman and I don't understand why in the world Beth was acting like that. It makes no sense to me. 1996???!! I really think that she should have gotten over this by now, and I can't think of any reason why she hasn't. I'm really being serious when I say that is sounds like Beth has some serious anger management/control issues and may need more help than you can give her.
You did nothing wrong. Yes, I know that friends need to be loyal to each other, but within reason. There is no reason why you should have to avoid anyone, Lisa included, just because of Beth's issues.
Something else about your post bothered me. You said that you don't feel comfortable with Beth in the house by herself and so the two of you are spending the weekend together while her parents are out of town. If she was a freshman in 1996 and has graduated from college, I'm assuming that she is in her early to mid twenties. Unless there are facts that were not mentioned in your message, I really don't understand why she can't be home by herself, and why you decided that she had to stay with you or you with her. It sounds like you are taking on the role of "protector" to her, and she really needs to learn to be less dependent on others and deal with her problems on her own, which she is having some trouble doing. Yes, be there for her, but why can't she be on her own too? I am truly sorry if I am reading more into this than I should be, but that bothered me when I read your message.
There is only one possibility I can think of that makes Beth's behavior seem even a tiny bit rational. You say that you are good friends. Without knowing your history, I wonder if she has romantic feelings for you and got really freaked out seeing you with Lisa, thinking, "Oh no, Lisa's going to get him too."
Just my $.02. Again, I'm sorry if I'm reading too much into anything. This is just an honest opinion from someone who is really concerned about Beth's behavior.
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