Thanks everyone for your suggestions...it seems to have calmed down a little bit, but I will have to ask my fiance to step up and tell his mom to relax a bit if needed...I don't want to be the bitchy daughter in law, and he needs to "stick up for me" if I ever expect him to support me in rough times anyhow right? Anyhow, will let you all know what ends up happening.
And it's looking like Ireland! YES!!!!