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Originally posted by sugar and spice
Something I've found interesting while reading through this forum on GC is the hypocrisy inherent in this forum. We are constantly assuring people that sorority rush is not a shallow process, that what you wear or how attractive you are doesn't matter as long as you make an effort to put yourself together, that every girl should give each sorority an equal chance and not listen to rumors, that you don't have to have money or connections to get into a sorority.
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I think this is kind of interesting and have been wondering about how others reconcile our words veruses our actions.
I think that rush is inherently shallow, but more so when done in a formal rush setting. I really have come to like the way informal works and how it allows for more of an opportunity to get to know women better.
Here's where I'm coming from: In HS I was yearbook editor for three years, student council, student rep to the school board, lettered in athletics, and a slew of other activities. However, I HATED my HS. I would never have been on homecoming court, cheerleading any kind of nonsense that would have forced me to associate any more than necessary with the 'popluar' kids. They hated me, and I avoided them like the plague. I was told on a regular basis that I was ugly and worthless (which I can now say is just bologna). My HS was a small rural experience and I in no way fit in, in fact I managed to get kicked off student coucil by the advisor. Does any of this make me someone who should not be allowed a chance at a sorority? I don't think it does. I went to college and was determined to change. I wanted to start over. I wanted to be less shy (which comes off as stand-offish), I wanted to know everyone and just have fun for once. I went to a school, where no one from my grad class was and did it. I was uber involved, knew everyone and had a fabulous experience. One of the best parts of my experience was AST. I had to learn to work with the 'popular' types and the types like myself, and women who were just a pain in the ass (though I do love them
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In my northern estimation, I would never have been given the chance to do this in a formal setting where all my histories were dug up. My sisters got to know me through dinners, parties, classes etc and they 'deemed' me worthy. When I look at the positive aspects of greek life, I think part of that is the ability to create a bond that is about who you truly are. I know you have to choose 80 from 1000, but I want everyone to be given a chance to find a place to flourish. To me, the researched, high intensity rush does not let people change or redefine themselves in the same way a smaller rush situation does. I would love to plan outfits and skits, but even more, I loved that my chapter really empowered me to take some chances I never would have expected or thought possible.