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Hey Jeff, I'll give you a little advice about feeling excluded. You're not going to like or get along with everyone in the chapter, especially a big chapter. Remember to always respect them and try to get along though.
Try to find your niche. If recruitment is your thing, put alot of effort into rush. If ritual is your thing, do ritual. If fundraising is what you enjoy, do fundraising. Then, if you specialize, you'll meet and get to know alot of the other guys that enjoy and are working on the same thing.
You can't be everyone's best friend, that is not expected of you. But do your best to at least know something about everyone.
Remember, not everything about being a brother is actual LXA teachings and what not. My experience showed me that most frats really don't focus on the fraternity for much of the day while socializing. Try to not to get to know people because you want to get in or gain acceptance or because they are a brother, get to know people like you would anyone else. Go drinking with them one night, play some Xbox, get a study group, get a group of guys together to paint the porch, grab some guys to go to a ska concert.
I remember when I was a n.i.bshit, I kind of felt excluded. Everyone had their little groups that would go out, etc. I never was ever really invited to go with them. Then one day an older brother asked why I didn't go out as much. I told him they never invited me. He replied saying that they didn't have to, I was always automatically invited and always welcome. Bottom line, when you see a group doing something that you normally wouldn't, ask them if you can join in, they will say yes.
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