I agree with N4L. Regardless of what you think about his tone, he was right. There is a right and a wrong way to approach this, and you don't get on-line and tell your man's buisness. The only different thing that I would have said was that "Pledging" which as we all know is illegal, is a not a short term thing, but a life long thing.
ILOVE MY Man,
Just know that if he is your soul-mate, you two will make it. But you will have to learn that there will always be a side of him that is off limits. He can't, shouldn't, won't share things with you.
I hope that your relationship can sustain this. I had one that couldn't. Even though I did share with her that we were doing great things in our community and I shared all of the positive things that I could with her, she was always non-supportive of my fraternity activities. I would see a brother out somewhere in public and speake to him, and she would flip sometimes. Just becuase I would take a few moments to talk to a brother whom I had never met. When you join a frat or Sor., your significan other needs to know that the org comes along with the deal.
Just my 10 cents.
MN
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