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Showing Interest

*When I was active, when we welcomed the PNMs back each round, a simple 'thanks alot' or 'I'm excited/glad to be back' was fine. You want to be polite, but not appear oddly overenthusiastic.

*As far as your cousin, simply saying "my cousin joined a sorority and she had a really great experience and it made me want to rush." You don't have to mention which, but if someone asks, just tell them. That's better than someone asking and you giving a weird answer or not telling them (it would seem odd).

I know there's some advice about showing interest (and how NOT to do it) in here:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=30758

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Originally Posted by sherryanne (Post 1706038)

Recruitment is about a week away! I had a couple of questions on showing interest while talking to actives in the house. How are you supposed to show interest? Is "I really enjoy being here" or "You guys are really friendly, thanks for inviting me back" acceptable? I don't want to sound like I'm set on one house because I'm definitely not - I want to keep an open mind when going through recruitment and select the house that makes me feel at home.

I think those general lines are absolutely acceptable. I also think it's a good idea to show interest and excitement about returning.

As a person who used to be on the "sister side" it always made me feel good to know that they were happy to be there.

As long as you don't come off as being borderline psycho/crazy ("OHMIGAWD I'M SO EXCITED TO BE BACK!!!! I CAN'T WAIT UNTIL I'M A SISTER OF XYZ! I ALREADY KNOW WHO I WANT TO ROOM WITH WHEN I MOVE INTO THE HOUSE! AND I JUST RENAMED MY DOG AFTER YOUR MASCOT!!") you'll be OK ;)

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Also, my cousin graduated from a sorority recently. I know the sisters will ask me why I decided on rushing and I want to be able to mention how my cousin had an amazing experience and encouraged me to try out recruitment, but because she is a sister of ABC, should I avoid bringing this up when I am at DEF or XYZ sorority? I don't want other sororities to get the wrong impression that I am setting my sights on one sorority.

I don't think you should avoid it. I wouldn't dwelll on it. I wouldn't even mention the sorority name unless the sister "rushing" you asked.

You could say (I'm taking part of your sentence here): "My cousin is a member of a sorority and recently graduated. She had an amazing experience and encouraged me to try out recruitment. She told me stories of their retreats and sisterhood events (homecoming/greek sing/insert any greek activity here) and it seems like a great experience...."

That way you are focusing on the things she liked about her sorority experience that made you interested and not so much the name of the sorority itself.

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Good luck!

Thanks for your insight! I forgot to mention that I went to an all-girls high school - a reason why I wanted to be a part of a sorority was because I definitely miss the close-knit sisterhood I formed in high school and I am looking forward to finding that same niche in college.

I know that students all-girls schools have been stereotyped as catty, cliquey, and dramatic. Would it be a bad idea to mention this?

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Originally Posted by sherryanne (Post 1706077)

I know that students all-girls schools have been stereotyped as catty, cliquey, and dramatic. Would it be a bad idea to mention this?

Yeah this would be kind of a bad idea. I don't even see where/why this would even come up. Recruitment is about the sororities getting to know you, not so much the type of school you went to.

As far as your cousin, I agree with other posters, but if they DO ask what sorority (and you aren't at that house), after you tell them say something like, "She was an ABC! It's cool that she loved it so much, even if it may not end up being the best fit for me."

Something like that, anyways, to point out that you are NOT set on that house.

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Originally Posted by sherryanne (Post 1706077)

I think that your recognition of the bond that women can share, based on your high school experience, is a great reason to rush. I think that if you're asked why you're rushing, in addition to your cousin, mentioning that you're looking for the same kind of bond you had with your close friends in high school, your desire for a female support network, etc. will signal to the members that you're looking for more than just a line on a social resume.

Ignore the stereotypes. Let your personality shine through.

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Originally Posted by sherryanne (Post 1706077)

I think it's actually a great idea to mention this. It sounds better than something like "Oh I just want to meet people" when asked why you're going through rush. I'd be willing to bet that there are sisters in each sorority who went to all girls high schools as well, and maybe you'll be paired up with one of them.