Is it just me?
 

Hey you all 20 somethings,

I just turned 20 a month ago and I have a BIG desire to change. The things and people I used to like I don't like no more, I am finding new interests. I am beginning to see things in a different perspective. OMG, and my outward appearance! I am changing from tomboy to chic! I am interested in hair and make up for the first time in my life.

This is freaking me out! When you guys turned 20, did something similar happen? Or, is something else causing this sudden transition?

Dear Curious,

You're probably just "growing up." That's certainly not meant to be a put down. Just one of those "passages" we read about.

I don't know whether it happens to everyone at a given time, or that it seems as dramatic to everyone as it seems to you.

As parents, we've looked forward to some of those changes in our children. I suspect you will, too.

In any event, look at it as a new experience and enjoy it.

Have fun with your new life.

DeltAlum

OH MY GOSH...
You are totally on the same wavelength as me. I have been going through a period where I want a change. One night I called my best friend bawling because I knew there was something missing in my life, but I couldn't put my finger on it. To make a long story short, I decided I wanted to change a lot of things in my life; things that weren't necessarily bad, but just things for the better.
More recently I've had this desire to move...away. I'm moving out again, which is good, but I've been thinking of moving out of the state as well.
Worse yet, I still have another year and a half left of school, and I absolutely CANNOT wait to start a career and be independant and just be able to do all those things I want to do now...but can't.

What I recommend doing is going to Barnes and Noble and buying this series called the Girlfriend Series. My friend got this book in the series that talks about surviving your 20s. I am still looking for it myself, but I'll let ya know what the full title is.

Just know that it's not unusual, and as you get a little older you'll see things more differently.

Hootie

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If a kid asks where rain comes from, I think a cute thing to tell him is "God is crying." And if he asks why God is crying, another cute thing to tell him is "Probably because of something you did." Jack Handy

I don't know if I started feeling that way when I turned 20, but I definitely know what you're talking about.

My first indication that I was growing up was when I realized that the things that my mom had told me growing up actually made sense. All this time I thought she was a heartless dictator (ex. I forbid you to date so and so--I have a feeling he's bad news), but I understood why she did the things she did. It was then that I knew I was growing up.

And now I see my next generation of cousins going through the same things. My high school age cousins often relied on me to defend them in their parent/child battles (I had a wonderful reputation growing up http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif ), but they don't anymore because they think I've lost my cool.

It was a freaky feeling at first, but in the long run I actually felt good about it...and I'm sure you will too. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

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A single seed...becomes a Rose of incredible beauty.

A single grain of sand...becomes a Pearl of great worth.

A single great idea...becomes a Century of success.

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Thanks guys,

This isn't the first time I had this feeling.
I did the same thing in junior high, I did a 180 in my life, including my personality. It not only freaked my self out it freaked other people out. At first they liked it, then they hated it.

I guess this will be a test to find out who my REAL friends are. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

It's just a faze. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif My sophmore year I thought I was ready to settle down. I quit going out a much and got a girlfriend. I was all about graduating and start working a getting married. Then when I turned 21 I realized that my college days were drawing shorter and shorter. We have the rest of our lives to make money and settle down. I have one more year of school left and I am enjoying every minute of it. Don't let the best years of your life slip away. HAVE FUN

20...blah! Just turned that doomed age a few months ago, and I can relate. Lately I've been feeling like I'm growing up too fast, seeing life change quickly. I have a lot of friends graduating, getting married, having kids, starting careers, and I'm still in school. I feel like I'm growing up, mellowing out a little. I spend more time with my closer friends, trying to catch up on old times. It kind of scares me because I know I'm still young as all hell, but 3 years ago, I was still in High School, not a care in the world, and now, I see maybe 1% of the kids I went to high school with, once every few months. Times are a changing, things are getting different, maybe it's the passage into adult life? I don't know, but I don't think I'm ready to make that passage yet....so until then....DRINK MASS QUANTITIES OF BEER!!!!! Or something like that...
It cheers me up at least http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

If you only understood the endless boundaries you've got to use as your baby

It's not about alcohol, it's about living life the way you so desire, Life comes but one breath to each human, so draw in it, and appreciate it for what it might be worth...Love yourself

Growing up is for those who are no longer living "their" dayz...Don't be "that" person, live life....Carpe Diem!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11


Cory
XOXO
If you were me, I'd be glad, cause none of my actions could come back to haunt me...........

I too changed a lot I think somwhere during my freshman/sophomore year. But I never really thought about it much. I guess it happens to everyone. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

i know it's not about alcohol...that was just a small attempt at dry humor..

I take life as it comes to me...I don't understand how ppl can worry about something that's 2 or 3 weeks away..it just makes ppl nervous and stressed, it's easier to relax, think of the present, and focus on the current.
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