BET Gives D9 Interests "Advice"
 

http://www.bet.com/News/Features/WHM...ionUnpublished
Posted March 3, 2008 - Are you considering joining a sorority at your school? Here is a list of important do's and don'ts.

Do’s:

Make sure you're seen involved on campus. You definitely want to appear confident and nonchalant, but don't overdo it. The ladies may think you're trying to be all that, and you could end up being black-balled. Keep in mind that while you may be fierce, you're being watched. And the ladies are looking at you to see if you have what it takes to represent.


If you're hoping that your name will be added to the list of chapter members of whatever sorority you choose, do yourself a favor and make sure you're at all of the sorority's events, and be punctual. The ladies need to know your face and believe that you are serious about the organization.


Be discreet and privately let one or two of the sisters in the sorority know that you're interested. When you tell those two, you can rest assured that the rest of the sorority will get the word.


Be fierce in anything and everything that you wear, including your hair, and make sure you have a GPA to match. If your GPA is not at least a 3.0, wait until you can get it there. While the rules may say that you only need a 2.5, if you come to them with that, they may not consider you grade-A quality for their sorority. <---How much can I stress this?


Don'ts:
Stay away from sporting your favorite sorority’s colors. Don't show up at the sorority's rush or events wearing the sorority's colors. It’s considered disrespectful.


OK. So you may love the frats – the parties, step shows and dances they put on. But if you know like I know, you’d better not appear to be a groupie. The last thing you want is for the sorority to look at you like the "easy girl."


Stay sober.


Don't go around telling all your little girlfriends what sorority you want to be a part of. They just may be the ones to set you up for failure.


For God's sake, don't act pressed to be a part of a sorority, or you'll catch the heat for that later.


Stay away from groups that refer to themselves as sisterhoods and wear paraphernalia, like fraternity sweethearts. Don't be caught in those organizations, or you can forget about being a part of a sorority.
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I LOVE IT!

Interesting, that post received a decidedly different reaction on AKA Ave., unless that is sarcasm.

there's a thread on this already on AKA Ave. but its kinda out of place to me... if its for Women's History Month, im just a little thrown off that this is their first order of business.

Didn't see it.

My initial reaction is in favor because I see A LOT of young women come to the table unprepared and in general, unknowledgeable about the way things work. If this helps educate the interests in a positive way, then I'm for it.

I felt the same way. The advice wasn't bad.

Per the other thread, I do agree that BET should have gotten permission to use our crests/shields but other than that, it's free advertisement for us.

I guess what I find problematic is the slant of the rules that they give. It is all about appearance and nothing about substance. As a part of a celebration of women's history, it offers no examination of what the BGL sororities have meant to both the women's rights movement and the civil rights movement. To me, it is a problematic, two-dimensional representation.

see, you were expecting more from BET and that's your fatal flaw.

No, I didn't expect more; it seems par for the course for BET. :)

The list wasn't as bad as I thought it might be before reading it but I just hate when writers just put their opinions out there without talking to members, especially when they are using the names of the organizations. I don't understand the whole "Stay Sober" thing under the Don'ts. We are not known for being lushes. And also, I think they missed a great opportunity to highlight what our organizations are really all about for Women's History month.

Yeah, that "stay sober" rule had me :confused: too.

I got that one, and I'll admit that it was dead-on. If you want to look good to the ladies, then be a lady. Don't make yourself known on the campus as lush. If that becomes your identity, you will not have a flattering reputation, and you may not become Greek.

Don't forget that one night of drunkeness can lead to one unforgetful night where bad decision-making takes over. Por ejemplo, just one too many drinks might give you that liquid courage where you curse out the one member of XYZ that you can't stand, but she might stand in the way of you becoming an XYZ after that...

My inner writer has my mind just working. :p

I do think our leadership should get involved though. People have to learn (especially in the media) that you just can't go posting shields and trademarks without the consent of those organizations. Also, what if the list turned out to be a whole lot worse than it is? There are a lot of young people out there that have no clue and will take what has been written there to heart.