Big Sis
 

Ok, so my sorority just had big sis revelation a couple of weeks ago, and I didn't get the girl who I wanted, which is no big deal because I also like the girl who I was assigned to. the only problem is, i am really close to the girl who i did want, and her little knows that. i became friends with the girl i wanted to by my big before her little even joined the sorority (she did "rush after rush.") the problem is, can i still remain close to this girl, or will things have to change because she has a little sis now? her little really likes me and wants to be good friends with me (she doesn't have many friends), but at the same time she kind of holds it over my head that she was assigned to this girl and i wasn't. can anyone relate/give me some advice?

Don't worry about changing your relationship with your close friend even if she isn't your big sis. You already have a close friendship with her, so you don't need the big sis/lil sis relationship. This will give you both the opportunity to become close with other sisters in your chapter. If you really like to spend time together...Great! You are still sisters and can still do things together. The big/lil relationship is not meant to be the only relationship allowed between sisters in different pledge classes. Let your friend's little sis know that you are happy with your big sis and that you want to be friends with her too since you are such good friends with her big sis.

Things dont to "have" to change at all. There is nothing wrong with maintaining a close friendship with someone else in your chapter.

When I joined, I already knew (and absolutely loved!) the girl who introduced me to my chapter in the first place. The semester I joined, I was definitely bummed because I wanted her to be my Big Diamond, but someone else got me. Even though she wasn't my big, even 4 years after college we are still super close (best friends even), so there is nothing wrong with having a close friendship with someone.

Sometimes bigs/littles don't even click very well. I didn't have a whole lot of anything in common with my big... but it's all good.. she's a great person and definitely made me feel welcome and we did hang out, but we never got that "super close" vibe that other pairs got. In the end it's OK with me because I'm still super close to others that were in my chapter.

best wishes!

Tread with caution. I was in the same situation. You can be close to the big. Just don't flaunt it. Example: "OMG, (Sis) and I went (location) and did (such & such) and it was so amazing, and next week..." You get the point. The girl just wants her big to like her as just as much as she likes you. :)