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USFSDTAlum 07-20-2001 08:23 PM

Need Advice
 
Against everyone I know's advice, I moved in with my best friend. This has been miserable since the 1st week we lived together but now the end is in sight. I am moving in with 2 of my sisters (including my little http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif )in Sept./Oct. However things that were once bad between my roommate and I are now worse. I have no desire to ever talk to this girl again and this was my best friend of 3 years. She takes our relationship for granted, takes my friendship for granted, and is so amazingly spoiled it makes my head spin. For example, I had told her that I was going to Orlando this weekend to see my little, and she interpreted this weekend as all weekend, so when I showed up tonight she was like what are you doing here? Then procedded to tell me that she and her boyfriend were leaving his dog over here while they wen't to a dinner and movie. When I calmly put my foot down and told her she wasn't leaving the dog here unless she locked him in her room (and the only reason I took a stand in the first place is b/c her boyfriends dog is a misbeahaved distruction machine) she threw a hissy fit and slammed out the door, telling me I was being a b*tch. I never take a stand and she always gets her way. However, what can I do to 1) salvage the next couple months of us living together and 2) make it so that we can at least be civil to each other after I move out (thank god!)

Kevlar281 07-20-2001 08:47 PM

Just go for the clean break, I pretty much treat the majority of my friendships the way I treat my relationships. If you continue to allow someone to treat you badly they will take full advantage. It’s a bit sad actually I had to learn this lesson from me best friend, that I no longer talk to anymore or have any contact with but two years later he still talks shit about me. After awhile you will just realize that it’s not worth the hurt and your better off without them. When it comes down to it, a friend that doesn’t treat you like a friend is no friend at all.

Lil_G 07-20-2001 09:32 PM

I've seen this so many times already, one was with my best freind who lived with another good freind of his first year. They started off alright but got progressively worse until something along the lines of your situation. Once they moved out they gradually got around to being freinds again. You'll be surprised, maybe you will become freinds after you guys depart. Just don't snap on her when moving the furniture out http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Hootie 07-20-2001 11:22 PM

You sound like me in a way. I'm the type that let things go because I'm too nice. Then when I finally have enough and snap it's all at once. OR, when I finally let someone know something isn't okay with me, I get it thrown back in my face.
I can't believe she's so inconsiderate and called you a bitch. I've NEVER called my best friend that...and we've been friends for 5 years. My best friend is a little demanding at times too, and she wanted to move in with me but I put my foot down. You learned a valuable lesson...but let me give you a suggestion.
I'm moving in with a friend again this September. We laid down some ground rules and they were all things we had to agree on. Things such as chores, parties, food sharing...etc. Sit down with your new roomies and combine a list you all agree on. Then it's easier to point out rules when it comes time.
Good Luck,
Hootie

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