indecisive recruitment help
 

hi girls
i'm going through recruitment right now and tomorrow is bid night. right now i'm torn between two houses that i absolutely LOOOVE. and really hoping, crossing my fingers, praying to death that they don't cut me.
but i was just wondering if you lovely ladies have any suggestions on how to help me decide which house to pick. like what kinds of questions you asked yourself or did you just go with your gut feeling.
thanks.

Some might suggest that "you just know." I did. But that doesn't always happen. Some suggestions:

Take a look around at the other PNMs at each Pref party. These will be your sisters and the girls you'll spend a lot of time with. There might be some overlap in the crowd, but think about the other PNMs you've met going through Recruitment. You might have clicked with some and clashed with others. Look for those girls during Pref.

Think about which sorority is "the real you." Where will you be the most comfortable hanging out in your pajamas eating ice cream? If you love both but are intimidated by one, you might consider going with the one where you feel more relaxed.

If you still love both equally, maybe you should look closely at their philanthropies. Perhaps one is closer to your heart? You might also read their creed, open motto, purpose, history etc. Something just might click for you.

Still a draw? Then don't worry about it. You'll probably be happy at either one.

Good luck! :)

If you get both of them for preference and you are STILL torn after preference, get out a sheet of paper, and write down what is important to you in a sorority. Then write down pros, cons, and how each sorority matches up to what is important to you. Sometimes, seeing it on paper can help you to rationalize your thoughts.

wonderful suggestions from both ladies. i can't think of a thing to add.

good luck with your decision!!

Wonderful advice!

You might also look at where the growth might lie. In other words, sorority membership should, in the ideal world, help you grow into a strong, capable, caring woman who is able to both lead and work as a team member.

Is there one group that might challenge you more? Ask more of you? Stretch you more? Take you places you might not otherwise go? That might be a group to consider.

Good Luck!

I love the advice you just gave, very mind-boggling.
:p

It's a good position to be in to be caugt between two excellent choices. When you go fill out your bid card, you'll probably find that you just write down a name. You won't go wrong. Don't worry too much about it. You'll probably fit in beautifully in either chapter.

Wow. That's pretty great advice. :p This exact situation happened to my sorority roommate in college. I was there to hold the kleenex box, as well as to slam the door in her cheating boyfriend's face when he eventually showed up to talk to her (lesson learned-do not mess around with another girl in your fraternity house when your girlfriend has the key to your room and might walk in at any moment unannounced). But I digress...

By now you have found out your chapter and hopefully it was all for the best. But to advise others who might be in the same boat: sure, you might decide that the girls in both houses would be fun to hang with. Only you know for certain why you like each. Someday, you might find that your chapter will bring you not only friends for your college years. For many of us, our sisters were people who helped us find jobs, wrote recommendations for professional school, and found that first apartment after college with us. They were bridesmaids in our weddings (mine helped me find the wedding dress), godmothers to our children, and the ones we call even today, years after college, when we need to talk to someone who really understands.

Not to get too heavy on you all here. It's just that the group you end up joining may (or may not) really make a difference in ways you can't even imagine right now.

Although I would guess that many of us on GC could have ended up somewhere else and happily so, there's typically something in your heart telling you where you really belong. I told this once to a PNM because she was struggling before preference. Years later, she reminded me of this and said it helped her to find clarity (although I can't claim much originality in my advice!). Hope that pref went well and that you were able to find your right choice, too!