What women want
 

Ladies, I was reading a survey that was taken, and it surveyed women from the age of 25 to 40. It was asking what are the top ten desires from a woman's point of view do they want in a man. These were some of the wants and they were in this order. What order would you place them in. 1 being the most important. 10 being the least important, and why.

1. Attractive
2. Romantic
3. A sense of humor
4. Communication
5. Honesty
6. Provider
7. Family man
8. Respectful
9. Leadership
10. Faithfulness

I agree with them for the most part.

I am not purposely looking for someone rich- but being financially irresponsible is a major turnoff at best, a dealbreaker at worst.

And being a leader does NOT equal being bossy. I think both spouses should be equal partners. Not into gender roles here. If one is more leaderlike than the other, so be it- but one should not overpower the other or boss him/her around.

Hmmmmm you would think "faithfulness" would be higher up on the list? :confused:

Yeah, I would. I'd also think "respectful" would be higher, too.

It's too hard to put a list in order. If a guy is all Quasimodo-like, chances are women won't get past that to find out whether he's a respectful guy. So, looks are obviously important. But they're probably not the most important thing to a woman... that's just what gets the guy in the door.

it actually makes sense to me... how many times do we women not call a guy back cause he's fugly but time after time take them back over cheating? i mean, most women will SAY "oh once a cheater always a cheater" and then he's out the door, but come on. give it a few days/weeks/months that same woman has taken him back.

so ideally we can say we want a faithful man, but somehow if the guy has other attributes that, for some insane reason, outweight his infidelity, that will bring him back into the mix.

which is bizarre, being that honesty is #5. is infidelity OK if he tells you about it vs. getting caught?

I agree that it's too hard to have a list since there's no accounting for everyone's characteristics or tastes. I'm game to take a shot, based on the 10 attributes you listed, but I cut it down to a "ranking" of 5 because I don't see how you can have anything without the top 3, and yes, like it or not, attraction has to be part of the equation so it's probably in everyone's top 2 or 3 (whether or not they admit to it). And everyone's definition of "romantic" is different, but any woman who has ideas of grandeur in that area and plans to "wait" for that perfect, rose-bearing, always-thinks-of-her-first and showers-her-with-gifts-and-kisses guy will be waiting a LONG time. That is an area a man can be "trained" in (at least to fake it ;)).


1. Honest, Faithful, Respectful
2. Sense of Humor, Attractive, Family Man
3. Communicative
4. Leader
5. Romantic

I would definitely eliminate the "provider" trait. I'm 42 and provide for myself just fine. I would replace it with "thoughtful". I'm not sure leadership is in my list either. I think "politically aware" would replace that one for me. I think it's too hard to put them in a specific order. They are all important. Intelligence would be on my list also.

I believe Peter Griffin said it best

"You know what really grinds my gears? This Lindsay Lohan. Lindsay Lohan with all those little outfits, jumping around there on stage, half-naked with your little outfits. Ya know? You're a... You're out there jumping around and I'm just sitting here with my beer. So, what am I supposed to do? What you want? You know, are we gonna go out? Is that what you're trying to - why why are you leaping around there, throwing those things all up in my, over there in my face? What do you want, Lindsay? Tell me what you want? Well, I'll tell you what you want, you want nothing. You want nothing. All right? Because we all know that no woman anywhere wants to have sex with anyone, and to titillate us with any thoughts otherwise is - is just bogus."

Okay you can have your thread back. This just instantly popped in my head when I saw the title. :D

It doesn't surprse me that attractiveness is #1. Most girls would rather take a really cute guy who is a douchebag over a less attractive but faithful, honest & respectful one.

My own personal order:

1. Faith in God- it's VERY important to me that my partner have a relationship with God
2. Intelligence- not a rocket scientist, but I need someone I can have an intelligent conversation with
3. Faithfulness
4. Honesty
5. Respectful
5. Leadership - I hate being the one making ALL of the plans and bringing up ALL of the important discussions in the relationship. It's annoying an exhausting.
6. Communication
7. Attractiveness
8. Provider- Do I neeed him to pay ALL the bills? No. But as a man, I expect him to be as financially responsible as I am (and not spend $$ on a big screen TV or something dumb when we can't afford it).
9. Sense of humor
10. Family man- I want a guy whom I can take home to my family and see myself raising a family with. This basically means no drugs, excessive drinking, or wreckless behavior.
11. Romantic

My personal list:
1. Respectful, Honest, Loyal/Faithful
2. Funny, Good sense of humor, Gets along w/ my family and friends
3. Intelligent, Strong, Responsible, Reliable
4. Attractive
5. Comforting, Communicative

My own list would be:

1. Respectful - without this, there is no relationship
2. Sense of humor - I laugh with my husband about something every day and cannot imagine a happy life otherwise
3. Honesty
4. Family Man - to me this means wanting kids, wanting to raise them as an equal partner, and the ability to be a good parent.
5. Communication
6. *Responsible/accountable* (not on PrettyBoy's list) - he does what he says he will do
7. Faithfulness - low on list because if he is everything else on the list, he will be faithful
8. Attractive - yep, at the bottom of the list... why? Because I found out a long time ago that someone with good looks can eventually become unattractive to you if you get to know them and don't like the inside... and someone who is not horrible looking can become the most attractive person in your life if they are everything else on this list.

Not on list: Leadership, Provider or Romantic.

Leadership is puzzling to me... not even sure what other women are wanting out of that because being married means being part of an equal team, to me.

Provider ... yeah, okay that is nice but as long as he isn't lazily sucking my own hard-earned resources I think I'm fine, so basically I just need someone who will provide for himself unless he is using his time for the benefit of something else important to us (like caring for a relative or staying home with the kids.

Romantic ... I honestly find everything I put on the list my biggest turn-on. Whether my husband buys me flowers and sends cards, etc. isn't really important to me. I've only found it important in relationships where something else was lacking (like respect or communication) and I thought that this "romance" was what would fill the hole.

1. Respectful
2. Extroverted and adventurous. I love socializing, and going to different places and doing crazy things...I don't want a homebody holding me back. I can't believe no one has mentioned this yet.
3. Attractive...being black, brunette, or "ethnic" is a plus!
4. Intelligent
5. If a man: has a nice bank account. If a woman: Likes to cook, clean, and take care of children (seems to be closely related to #3, being ethnic)
6. Let me have control in the bedroom. I'd rather do things to people than to have people do things to me, except when it comes to oral sex.
7. Communication, I can't and won't read people's minds.
8. Sense of humor.
9. Vegetarian, but not too picky of a eater. Likes to try different restaurants, and says no to chains!

Not on list:

Romantic

Leadership

Faithful, anyone who's respectful should be faithful.

1. Attractive-That's the 1st thing I see, but that only gets him in the door.
2. Respectful-A guy who respects himself will respect me.
3. Sense of humor-I love laughing. Life is too short to be too serious.
4. Faithfulness-I don't like to share.
5. Honesty-Who wants to be lied to?
6. Romantic-A relationship would be pretty boring without it.
7. Communication-What's a relationship without communication?
8. Leadership-I'm assuming that means confidence.
9. Family man-:confused:
10. Provider-I can take care of myself.

1. Faith, Honesty, Faithfulness, and Respect - there is no relationship without these
2. Sense of humor
3. Leadership/Provider - to me means hard-working, ambitious, sets & meets goals, inspires others
4. Communication - willing to talk through problems
5. Attractive - important but not a deal breaker. More important that he's attractive as a person.
6. Romantic - a gesture now and then is nice
7. Family man - has a good relationship with those he loves, is a loyal person

As a guy, I think the whole leadership catagory is bogus. Everytime I would take my ex out to dinner, I would ask where she wanted to go. Of course, she never knew. So what do I do? I say, lets go to Applebee's. She says no, shes not in the mood

Ok, how about Chilli's.....dosn't like Chilli's

IHOP?....I'm not really feeling it

That really nice restraunt downtown.....i don't want you to waste your money

How about Denny's....I only like their breakfast food and I don't want breakfast

Well then, since you shot down all my suggestions, where do YOU want to go.......I don't know, just pick somewhere.

Red Robin....I don't want a burger


Fine then. Fuck it. We're getting taco bell and going home.



...maybe thats why i'm single now...