my worst nightmare???
 

There's this girl who lives on my floor. She and I get along only because I am a very laid back person but she starts drama with everyone else on my floor.

Anyway, our recruitment is in spring and she is leaning toward the same sorority I am. Everyone says to "trust the system because it all works out in the end and everyone ends up where they are suppose to"

I really like this sorority and I felt I really clicked with them. (we had informal meetings with them as a way to get to know the greek system) But now I am just scared about what if I get in and she does to? I dont think she will just because she is different than the girls that are actually in that sorority I really dont think they'd get along well. But what if???

I am just ranting I guess because there's nothing anyone can do about it. I just cant imagine her being my sister. Has anyone else had this happen to them?? A girl they didnt like ending up in the same sorority has them? Success stories about how you ended up being best friends anyway? Anyone with similar stories would ease my mind!! Thanks!!

It sounds like you're already counting your chickens... you should probably stop. Furthermore, If the sisters think she'd be an asset to the chapter, you have to trust that.

No group of 30+ women are all going to like each other. If you don't like each other, stay out of each other's way and don't worry about it. This is, of course, assuming either one of you even gets a bid.

I agree, 33girl.

If this was a smaller group, your concern would still be a matter of getting beyond the personal to achieve organizational goals.

But it is often the case that people learn that the other person isn't as bad as they thought. Sometimes it takes maturity for people to calm down, as well.

I would just try not to worry about the situation. Like you said, Recruitment is still a ways off, and just because you were both initially attracted to the same organization doesn't mean that one or both of your won't change your minds come formal Recruitment week. Also, as you pointed out yourself, she may not click with the same group that you do if your personalities are so vastly different. If it so happens that you do end up in the same group, do yourself a favor and try to give this girl a second chance. If you are both bid by the same organization, the bottom line is that your new sisters saw just as many membership qualities in her as they did you, and you should challenge yourself to see those things in her as well. Sorority life is not always a bowl of cherries; some of the most valuable lessons I've learned through membership are how to get along with people whose personalities clash with my own, both inside and outside of my organization. Who knows? If you approach the situation with an open mind, you may find a true friend and sister in this girl, whether you are members of the same organization or not.

Truth be told, I had two pledge sisters whom I didn't care for. The night I pledged, I was really nervous about the two others. Well, years went by, and we never became exactly close - but I learned to love them as sisters.

One of the most important things you can learn about being in a sorority is to respect the pin that they wear. You'll meet a lot of people in life who you won't like, but more often or not, you can respect some aspect of each one.

And, as said before, you or the other person may change your minds between now & Bid Day!

I agree with what everyone else said. I think one of the most important lessons that you learn being greek is that you won't always get along with everyone, but sometimes you have to in order for the organization to operate. This happens as an adult in the "real world" I don't necessarily like everyone I work with, but I have work with them in order for my office to operate.
Everything will be ok, things might turn out differently than you expect.

ETA: like honeychile said, there were girls that I didn't really care for, that other girls voted on but I didn't. One of them ended up being my direct sister in my family line. I learned to love her, and I would do anything for her.

I agree with the others on this--miles to go yet. Plus, you wouldn't want everyone in your house to be the same, anyway. We had a few drama queens in my chapter and it was not a large chapter so we alllllll had to get along to some degree. One of my pledge sisters drove us all up the wall because she was so histrionic about everything. But deep down, she was a good person and we all figured out how to work around the personality. Dramatic people can add energy, passion, and enthusiasm to a chapter, all of which are pluses for recruitment and chapter spirit.

Assuming both of you do get into this particular house, you'll just find your way. Keep an open mind. Perhaps she has strengths and interests you'll have in common with her. I certainly was not friends with just the same 3 sisters for 4 years--I was constantly discovering new things about the other girls in the house, and I learned a lot about how wonderful they all were in their own way.

What everyone else said. Chill out. You aren't in any sorority yet. Even if you and the drama queen don't join the same chapter, there will be people you don't like. This is true of any organization, college class, job, etc.

I totally agree. No one is going to get along an dlike each other all of the time. Some you probably wont like on a personal level ever. When I joined my chapter there were a couple of actives that I didnt like off hand, but by the time I graduated I loved those girls! Opinions can change so keep that in mind too and good luck!

Don't worry about it. I don't love all my sisters. There are some I don't even like. You will discover that you will end up hanging out with a small group of them that you do.

I've always thought this is one of the prime lessons of Greek life, although I think of it a little differently -- as learning to call people you don't like all that much "brother" or "sister" and mean it.

I would try not to think about the whole thing. Honestly, in the worst case scenario that you do end up in the same sorority (which is not a definite thing no matter how anyone may be "leaning" right now) it doesn't mean that the grass is much greener with any other group, or even a group without this particular girl. There may already be a girl in either this group or another who is as bad or worse than the girl you know is horrible. For that matter, there is no guarantee that if you join this group, next year the group may vote to bid a girl next year that you hate. The point is, this is part of being in a sorority. Just like real family -- there are some that you wish you didn't have to deal with. I think that dealing with this issue is one of the ways that sororities are good for women. They teach women how to sometimes deal with and work with not-so-favorite people when you have no choice. That will happen throughout your whole life (other organizations, likely in your career) so take a deep breath and know that her drama doesn't necessarily have to become your drama unless you allow the situation to get to you.

Keep in mine that if this girl is truly one of those horrible girls that no one can deal with, chances are she won't receive a bid from any group. Every year, there seems to be at least one in the system, and everything works out just fine in the end.

Also keep in mind that, at least on my campus, there is always that group that EVERYBODY is leaning towards before rush starts for whatever random reason. Usually most people don't end up there because they change their mind when they actually go through rush and find other chapters that they like more, don't change their mind but get cut, etc. I wouldn't even begin to worry about it until you and her (hypothetically) end up at pref together...but unless you go to a really small school with not a lot of chapters that's probably not that likely so just enjoy the rush process and don't stress.