this is for the guys!!
 

OK, say your in Cancun or a really cool beachy place, and your girlfriend is back home. And your at a club and this girl keeps on flirting with you (let me remind you your gf is back home)and she's really really pretty.And she asks you if you would like to hang out with her and her friends. Anyway she starts kissing you. what would you do? Cause you have a chick back home. But your also in Cancun.. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif
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yea yea yea hes in cancun--and im a little worried

Obviously, I'm not a guy so I can't answer your question Heather! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif But your post brought to mind a related question that maybe the guys could address...A lot of my guy friends in college have always maintained that it is possible to hook up with an available woman even though they love someone who is not there at the time. IS this true and if so why, why, why???

BTW Heather, my boyfriend now husband went to Jamaica with his buddies before we got married and he was a good boy during his vacation. So, don't worry I'm sure yours will be too! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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[This message has been edited by KillarneyRose (edited May 19, 2001).]

Heather1981,

Why worry, you'll never know. Look a friend of mine and a really nice guy was dating this girl for afew years and had every reason to suspect they would get married. He was HER brother's best friend.

He cheated on her repeatedly, he didn't go out of his way to do it, but if the opportunity came up .. . he did.

Her brother knows, and says nothing. They have all kinds of mutual guy friends, and they say nothing. In fact they offer him opportunities. The brother helps offer also . . .

So, if he cheats in Cancuun it will have very little to due with YOU, but more about where he stands on issues of honor.

Shrug, the VAST majority of my friends would take the flirting girl up on her offer. In fact, the only friends I have that wouldn't . . are what I would call weaker males.

So yes most men believe that it is QUITE posible people would abandon their SO . . .


I'll post more about it later, including my perspective . .. and answe Kilarney Rose's question also.

But to add to the pot. Kilarney . . .
Yes most guys will sample the goodies even though the main dish is gettong ready.

Thought I'd bump this to the top because it's a pretty interesting topic (It's always fun to get a glimpse into the mind of the male!):-)

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Yes, i will worry about Chad while he is down there. Worring about is safty, cause Cancun is a wild place and pretty much everything is illegal down there. I want him to have fun, and i am happy that he went i just wish i could he there with with him. I understand he is a old enough to make his choices but he is also a typical jerk (and i say that in respect). I dont want him to get himself into a situation he cant get out of. I know im sounding like a mom or something. But i really really ( this wil be the first time i have said this) LOVE him!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif Alright my fist college love is down there having fun and I'm at home working.. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif he'l be home on Wendsday and everything will be back to normal..

Your right James.. We're not married.. SO what if he cheats, as long as his friends dont tell me it will be cool.. But if he really cares about me he wouldnt do it..
Hell hes in Cancun!! I have diffrent emotions about this trip...

I have this buddy . . . great guy, very moral, polite, friendly, etc. He's dating an amazing girl, they're basically perfect together, and madly in love. They live approximately 3000 miles from each other, so during the summer they won't be together. His exact words: "I love this girl - she's amazing. I mean, over the summer i might cheat on her, but she's still the girl for me. Look at it like this: she's there, I'm here, and ish happens - it doesn't mean i don't care."

So no commentary on if he's right or wrong - he's a great kid, madly in love . . . but also very realistic about his limitations as a male. It's the old "well, if she was laying in my bed naked, i guess so" question - and many guys don't equate hooking up w/ someone they don't care about with showing disrespect to girls they do care about. Tough situation - but it totally depends on the guy, the situation, etc. If he loves ya, then he does - and don't worry about anything else, because he isn't! ; )

It is ok because it's your dog. It's YOUR DOG.

Every guy is different, so there's no one correct answer to your question. But well, a similar thing happened with my b/f. He and I live 3 hours apart. I couldn't spend this past new year's with him because I was recovering from minor surgery. So it turns out that he went out with some friends and they got drunk and a girl pretty much did what you just said. She kissed him, and he let it happen. 3 days later, he worked up the nerve to tell me about it. He felt really guilty, but I forgave him because 1) It was only kissing, and 2) He had the decency to be honest with me. It is my opinion that any guy, when there is alcohol involved, will be a little unfaithfil here and there.

I have to agree with KSig RC. I think when two people are going out at school, and their homes are 3000 miles aways, it makes sence for them to end it at breaks. I think long distance relationships never work, it only makes your miserable, and its not economical. My friend that lives in DC was in a relationship with a girl in Boston. He visted her four times in one summer. he paid like 200 bucks each time for his plane ticket.

Im sorry, but I have to disagree. I think if someone is 'madly in love' with someone else, that even under the aforementioned circumstances, they should stay honest to that person. As a fairly prominent FIJI, Calvin Coolidge, once said, (to my recollection) 'There is no moral standard so high that people cannot be held to it.'

mrblonde, BINGO! If a guy is with the person that he should be with he won't cheat. If the person that he is with satisfies all his needs and desires, then he first, has no reason to look or go elsewhere, and second, would not risk losing the person who fulfills his life and makes him whole. Distance makes no difference.

He should go for it. It's not cheating if he is out of state and the girl makes the first move.

All the guys out there should stop being so nice other wise you will get stuck in the friend zone and become cuddle-buddies.

I personally think that cheating knows no bounds, and testing the waters of fidelity makes for meaningless relationships. And if being with the same girl for over two years with a pending engagement upon graduation makes me a cuddle buddy, then Im thankful for that.

If I had an understanding with my girlfriend then yes. Otherwise Its cheating. I don't think I would cheat.