What's your man got to do with me?
 

"I got a man"

WHY is it every time I try to hook up I am met with this response? Surely I am not the only one who is single. Just when I get my hopes up, I get the , "I already told you, I got a man." UGGGHHHHHH!!!


Kickin it old school with the Positive K.

[This message has been edited by lifesaver (edited April 19, 2001).]

Yeah I hear ya. And that line always comes after, You're a really nice/cute/funny/sweet/whatever else guy...
I gotta boyfriend.

Thats messed up. Why not just be like, "look buddy, I'm not sure why you came over here, but go find some one else." LIke when we ask you out and its just "no." why not, "No, and you should walk over there now." It would make it a lot easier.

I have had a couple of incidents with this sort of thing: one is funny and one is not so funny.

First the not so funny one: About this time last year I was out celebrating one of my sister's b-days and we went out to a nightclub; just the girls. She met this guy from California, and he had a friend who kept hitting on me. I told him I had a boyfriend (which I did), but he wouldn't leave me alone, he just said whatever I heard that one before, and kept grabbing me, which really ticked me off. If a girl says she has a boyfriend, I guess all you can do is take her word for it, and if she is single, well it's her loss.
Now for the funny story: I was at a Sigma Chi Party a few months back, and me and one of my sisters were lounging around in the living room chatting. Anyways this guy comes over and sits on the edge of the couch right beside me. I just knew he was going to start hitting on me. So he asks who I'm at the party with and I replied quite nonchalantly: I'm here with my sorority sisters and I know this fraternity very well (my b/f is a Sig). So the first thing he says to me is, so where's you boyfriend. So I responded around somewhere, and my sister and I got up to go dancing. Anyways at the end of the night we are all standing in the front hall getting ready to leave. The same guy comes up to me again, and asks where's my boyfriend. Well Colin (my b/f) is in the front hall with us, so I pointed to him, and said he's right over there. Well this guys takes one look at Colin (who is 6'1 over 200lbs - used to play football), and says oh sh*t, and bolts. It was hilarious.

[This message has been edited by Siobhan (edited April 19, 2001).]

I am out there with you except guys don't lie to spare your feelings

LMAOBO! Too funny. That would make it a lot easier. Damn, I hate playing games. Like how you gotta get to know them first then they'll tell you they really dont have a man. Its just their way if being coy. What is this 1878? UGH!

OK, so you saying I couldnt get a hook up if I was a whore in Tijuana. Thanks. j/k. You know thats what I was thinking, but I didnt need that kind of brutal honesty! Ouch. I am a man and need my ego stroked. I need to hear, "They just dont know what they are giving up!"

That is because you say you want honesty. Then you're like, "he told me the truth and hurt my feelings, he's a jerk". But if we try to spare your feelings you say "He doesn't respect me enough to be honest?" What the hell....

So which is worse - Trying to talk to a girl and having her shoot you down with the boyfriend line (real or fake) or
Talking to a girl and hitting it off with her and then later finding out from her or someone else that she does have a (real) boyfriend?
Just wondering which is more annoying/painful http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif
(Hey ya'll check out my new senior member status ;-) )

[This message has been edited by Turtlegirl (edited April 20, 2001).]

Getting shot down is worse. If she has a boyfriend, but we hit it off, then that means she might be wanting to keep her options open. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

THANK YOU!!! I have a habit ( and yes it may be a bad habit) of not telling guys I meet that I have a boyfriend. Its not that I'm trying to hide it but I just don't mention it because a lot of times if I do, I'm like a social pariah for the rest of the night. Now sometimes I may be interested in the guy and other times I may just want a friendly guy to talk to. I have gotten so many lectures from guys I've met, as well as my own friends, that this is just SO wrong because its misleading,etc. Thank you for backing me up on this one http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif !

[This message has been edited by Turtlegirl (edited April 20, 2001).]

Maybe the reason that so many of the women you talk to have boyfriends is this: There's something alluring about the self-confidence of a person who isn't looking. You know how they always say that as soon as you get a guy/girl, everyone else starts hitting on you? Well, maybe that's it. These women you are interested in have that special quality about them that comes from not being interested.

It may sound silly, but I'm sure that's got something to do with it. I am absolutely not flirtatious, and I try to flash my ring or mention my fiance whenever talking to a guy I'm not friends with. But it doesn't matter how careful I am! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif I've been asked out more since I got engaged than I ever have been in my life. I must just be giving off those happy/in love pheremones! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

and if she's keeping her options open with him, what makes you think that she wouldn't keep her options open with you? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Things that make you go hmmm...

Actually, I say it("I got a man") b/c most guys won't leave me alone if I say something else. If I say I'm not interested, then they want a 3 page synopsis on why that is. Or some become scary and almost threatenting. I don't want to take a chance so I go to old faithful. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

(For Billy...almost all of my boyfriends have been friends..."good" friends that I would have never thought I would date b/c they were really "nice." But time changes a lot of things http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif )



[This message has been edited by DreamCatcher (edited April 20, 2001).]

haha - yeah that can be pretty true - just like in the song, "I'm not tryin to hear that, see?"

One of my brothers is like that - he'll fall for a girl, sometimes she'll say no, and he won't understand at all - it's like he needs a pop-up book or something to explain it, "Tab A into slot B, move swan up and down . . . you're not my type . . . "

[This message has been edited by KSig RC (edited April 20, 2001).]

I LOVE THAT SONG!!!!!!!!!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif