Can a girl lavalier a guy???
 

Im in a serious relationship with my boyfriend who is not in a greek organization and I was wondering if girls can lavalier guys??? I have sisters who have been lavaliered by their boyfriends but no one knows if sisters can lavalier the guys... anyone out there have any idea??
AOE to all my Alpha Phis!!!

Can a girl ask a guy to marry them?

It's not a social norm, but it can be done.

Your only "technical" worry is bylaws about men wearing your letters. As long as there's nothing against the opposite sex wearing your letters, I think the only problem would be social stigma.

Don't expect the fraternity to have a candlelighting for him! :rolleyes:

Seriously.

flutterbi, do you mean actually give him a lavelier -- I'm having serious trouble imagining any guy wearing a lavelier -- or were you thinking of something else.

I don't know that I'd call it social stigma, per se, but I think most guys would be pretty uncomfortable being "laveliered," whether literally or figuratively.

If the guy's ok with it and there are no rules against it, go ahead. But perhaps there are other options besides a traditional lavalier? Perhaps a larger charm that's on a "hemp" or rope necklace? I'm picturing something that looks more steelish than silver but I can't actually pull up a picture of what I'm thinking of.

Basically more manly than a petite silver charm on a chain.

Just brand his ass instead ;)

But seriously, I think the people that are pointing out that a boy isn't going to view a lavalier the same as a girl, are speaking truth.

Girls can propose to boys, usually girls don't propose on bended kneee with the offer of an engagement ring. Or at least not that I have heard.

Would your chapter do a candlepass for you? Is that kind of what you are angling for? Thats cool but maybe they would just do one for you anyway.

The original poster also said her BF isn't in a fraternity.

Lavaliering is meant to be act act of love - it's not really about a necklace. It's about saying to your girl/boyfriend, "You mean as much to me as my brothers/sisters, so my letters are your letters. My brothers/sisters acknowledge that you're that important to me, too."

As long as that's implied, there's no need for girly necklace, or a manly necklace, or anything, just as long as your significant other knows that they are always welcome in your house and accepted by your fraternity or sorority.

I think women's GLO jewelers should start selling mascot cufflinks and tie pins for girls to "lavalier" their boyfriends :)

That would be awesome...maybe just mascots, but still cool.

In AEPhi's case, the answer is no. Nobody except initiated sisters is allowed to wear the Greek letters.

But... men who are not in fraternities can "lavalier" their girlfriends. My husband, who is not in a fraternity, somehow found out about lavaliering and bought me a little heart-shaped charm as my "lavalier". My sisters considered it just as valid as a fraternity lavalier, and did a candle pass for me. A friend of my husband's, who is also not in a fraternity, "pinned" his then-girlfriend (now ex-wife) who's in a different sorority, and her sisters did a candle pass for her.

You can candlelight for a promise ring as well.

i would not think that you would qualify for a candlepass if you did not receive the lavalier, but it is an interesting twist on tradition.

I've heard of "pearling" girls--if a guy's a GDI, then he can give a girl a pearl instead of the letters he doesn't have.

I don't really get that...a lavalier says you would put her before your fraternity. A pearl says you would put her before.....? An oyster?

We do candlelightings for more than just lavalierings.