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Well, I'm guessing that accessories is struggling because they don't know how to rush. It may not be an overall reflection of their sisterhood, and you might get a totally different impression at informal.

If you have the option, I'd recommend you give them another try simply because you might be surprised.

If all the groups do informal, it would seem to me that you have a good chance at one of your top groups. Most groups are pretty serious about who they invite to pref and they will likely be very happy to see you again.

What Alphagamuga said. I'd try to go to as many parties as I could fit in--you never know which rumors are right and which aren't. Go in with your few favorites, but keep an open mind about the others. When you get a chance to narrow down your choices and options, start concentrating on your favorites that stood out in the fall and during informal as well. Good luck!

you can maximize your odds by attending parties at the maximum number of sororities you can fit into your schedule. try to give each group a second chance-if you then feel the same after seeing them in an informal setting, you don't have to go back and can concentrate on the ones that have become your favorites.

please keep us informed.good luck!!

I would definitely give accessories another try. If they are a new group, they may be trying to use rush techniques that simply don't fit them - they are probably still going through a trial & error period. Also, don't let your roommate's being a member put you off. There are going to be girls you don't like in EVERY sorority, no matter which one you join.

I'd try out mascara and perfume, too, just to see what they're like. As for hairspray, though, it sounds like where there's smoke, there's fire.

Are these locals or NPC groups? It seems really weird to me that it they are national groups (or international groups) that the GLO wouldn't be looking in to the situation at Hairspray.

The 50% drop from bid acceptance to initiation would be a big red flag wouldn't it?

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Originally Posted by Alphagamuga (Post 1390530)

Not necessarily, if this is the first time that girls actually quit. It can easily be explained away by "division within the pledge class" or "pledges didn't want to participate" or something else.

I disagree with everyone saying she should go back to every house. If it was formal recruitment I would say yes, but not for informal! If she already knows that she doesn't like the girls in the house and she wouldn't want to be associated with them there's no reason to waste her time and their time going to their event. She said one house hazed and they initiated only half of their pledge class... huge red flag! And she said in accessories that she did not like the girls in the pledge class... since these girls would be her pledge class too she's completely right in not wanting to attend their party. If the only reason she wasn't going back to accessories was because it was small and didn't have a good formal recruitment I would say to give them another shot but since she already knows she doesn't get along with these girls I agree with her that there's really no point in going back.

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Originally Posted by Regina Filangie (Post 1390577)

I definitely agree.

I can imagine wanting to be Greek, but I can't imagine wanting to be Greek so bad that she'd have to put up with a house that hazes or a pledge class that she can't stand to be around.

I wouldn't go back to the house that hazed, but the small group that is new might be worth another look. I think her impression of the girls is just based on her roommate who might not be typical.

I thought rush was pretty fun, so going to events and parties never seemed like a hardship. Individuals on both sides meet new people and enhance the reputations of the groups they're in. It's not a waste of time unless you are sure that you'd never accept a bid, and the group doesn't see it as PR. (Even though I only joined one, some of my positive feelings about other groups were formed during rush.)

OP: I'm a little perplexed about a campus on which everyone does informal. It seems like some groups would already be a total. What's the deal at your school?

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Originally Posted by Alphagamuga (Post 1390587)

OP: I'm a little perplexed about a campus on which everyone does informal. It seems like some groups would already be a total. What's the deal at your school?

At smaller schools with lower total, it's very common for all chapters to participate in COB. At campuses like this there's no stigma about COB and even the strongest/"top" chapters will have COB events (but usually with fewer spaces to fill).

A system like this usually develops because all or most of the chapters are at or near total. Also, the panhels are really flexible with total, adjusting it depending on the strength of sorority membership numbers from year to year. If the number of women in the chapters at these schools all hover around total, chapters never really get the chance to go very far over total during FR. With women transferring/going off campus/graduating each semester, it usually leaves all the chapters with at least a couple spaces to fill. It's very hard to stay above total for a long time in this kind of system (but relatively easy to stay at total).

At larger schools with more women going through recruitment, this kind of system is far less common.

Thanks for the information. I was especially confused because quota last fall at this campus seemed to be 24, and if that were the case, it seemed to me that each group would have around 100 members. At that size, it seems like it would be a traditional quota and total kind of place.

But as I'm learning, different campuses (campi?) are really different.

First off, in "accessories", the girl she's referring to and that pledge class went through in the fall and are already initiated. They will NOT be her pledgesisters - I don't know where that assumption came from. And if they were - so what? There's no rule that you have to do everything with the girls you pledge with the whole time you're active. If there was, I most certainly would have quit after a semester.

I wouldn't go to the house that hazed - I didn't, when I was rushing, because all the girls looked like Tonya Harding and scared me - but the OP seems to object to the fact that they're the "rich girls" as much as the hazing factor.

Alphagamuga - it's entirely possible that the group was way under total and quota was something like 10 and they picked up 14 open bids because they had that many open spots. It happens all the time, particularly in Northeastern schools.

Best of luck to you. I joined my chapter through informal. It is a more relaxed environment, but in some ways the lack of structure can make it stressful for the PNMs (wondering when you will hear back from the group and things like that). Just be patient and have fun at all the different events!

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Originally Posted by PinkBabygirl10 (Post 1390376)

Hello GCers,

LIPSTICK = My top choice. I absolutely love them! I went to their Pref. Night in the fall, but I was obviously not extended a bid. I really liked all the girls I talked to. Conversation came very easy, they're very fun girls to hang out with, and they're a lot like my friends from home. I would love to get extended a bid from them this time around. However, I understand that I may not. And that's okay. I am looking forward to seeing the other groups, and I know my feelings and rankings may change.

EYELINER = This group was not one of my favorites in the fall. There wasn't anything that really stood out about them to me. I felt a little uncomfortable at their parties. But on the last night (before preference), I really liked the girl who rushed me. She introduced me to a lot of girls, and she was really friendly. Again, this group has a bunch of different types of girls. I was surprisingly invited to their Pref. Night, and I went. However, since I was so in love with LIPSTICK (especially after going to their Pref. Night), I didn't list EYELINER on my preference card. I suicided LIPSTICK. (At the time, I didn't know the disadvantages of suiciding. My Rho Chi never told me it was a bad thing to do until after I did it.) After a semester of observing EYELINER and seeing the types of girls in it and what they do, I like them more than I did in the fall. I regret not listing them on my preference card, and I always am thinking "what if." And I think I would fit in fine there. I am just nervous to go to their parties this spring because they might wonder why. I am just going to go, and let them make their decision if they don't want me to return. I can just hope for the best!

:)

Maybe I am reading too much into this but if you went to pref for both and they are both doing informal, they probably don't feel you are a good fit for their chapter. If both are doing informal, they had empty spots up to total that they could have given you a snap bid or COB'd you right after formal to get you. I may be wrong but if I am right, I would certainly give all groups incl the small one a try (skip the hazing group).

Good luck, keep an open mind and don't let the groups know how you feel about the other chapter!