Your Own Personal Do-Over
 

So If our Higher Being granted you three do-overs, what would they be?

Mine are, in no particular order...

1) In 11th grade, I wouldnt have made such an ass of myself to Melissa. She liked me and I phucked it up because I was an idiot. I didnt realize she liked me and I was that guy.

2) My freshman year in college there was this girl Julie that was friends with my sister in college. Maybe I mis-interpertered the signals, but she was a lot nicer to me than she should have been and I was all young and stupid. I didnt even try to talk her up. If I had had my wits I would have thrown some game her way. I was so young and stupid, I didnt even know what game was.

3) I would have have taken HS seriously. I was smarter than everyone I went to school with. I just wasnt challenged. (I went to a small HS) Instead of just being lazy, I should have made a game of it... to see how much smarter then everyone else I was. I could have gone to a way better college, and would have been a lot further in my life. i wouldnt know the people I do, and my family wouldnt even look the same, but I could have done better for myself. I just wonder.. what would my life look like now....

1. High School

2. My 20s

3. health and finance---both tie for #3

It's hard for me to answer this, because there are some obvious responses (dating Ben, going to Minnesota), but in retrospect I'm not sure I WOULD take those back, because I learned so much from them. They changed my personality drastically, and I love what they've given me, even if they were hellish at the time.

So, with that in mind:

1) I would not have led Eric on when I was sixteen. I was too young and stupid to realize that he was my rebound from my first ex-boyfriend, but I should have realized it anyway.

2) I wouldn't have baited Melissa so much in high school. She wasn't worth it.

3) I wouldn't have dated Brendan that last time -- it was a waste of time on both our parts, and after I chose between him and the other boy, my friendship with boy numero dos has never been the same. I hate that -- I miss who we were.

Hmmmm...I think that

1). I would have gone to that writing camp at Duke my 6th grade teacher recommended me for, and to GSA when my art teacher told me I should.

2). I would have looked at more colleges during senior year of high school besides the ones I did...if I had, I would've gotten free tuition since the school I go to now gives a free ride to undergrads who have higher than 28 on their ACT--but I didn't know about this!

3). I would never have had a serious boyfriend in college...it was too much hassle, and for what? Nothing.

Are you serious? Dang! I wish I had known that. Which school? (Granted, I love my Illini...even when they lose in football by more than 50 points...)

Some of my redos are:

1) Continued dancing when I was younger.

2) Studied abroad in college.

3) NEVER gotten a credit card as a freshman in college!

1) Would have back off of S*r*h when I had the chance.

2) Taken my classes more seriously

3) Taken my health more seriously

4) Taken myself more seriously

1) High School- I would have worked harder as far as my grades go. I had a 1450 on the SAT and could have pretty much gotten a free ride anywhere I wanted to go if I would have had an A average. Instead I had a B average and about $30,000 in college loans so far

2) 8-14-03. That entire night. Had I not done what I did that night, I might have had a good year at Clemson, not fucked things up, and I would probably still be at Clemson.

3)Hmm... cant' really think of a #3 right now.


But honestly, I don't really know if I could go back and change those things if I could. I know my life would probably be better, but I can't say for sure. I've met so many people and had so many different experiences on the paths I chose. I may have never met these people and had those experiences otherwise. It is interesting to ponder where I might be in life right now had I made other choices.

1. When I chose my first job out of college, I would have made a different choice. I chose a consulting job because my husband was finishing up grad school and we didn't know what his job situation would be, and this was the only job that would give me the flexibility to relocate. Unfortunately, it required weekly travel, and the managers for my project didn't know what they were doing (one of them got fired for incompetence), so it turned into a dead-end job and I ultimately quit. I had a few other offers on the table; in retrospect, I should have taken one of them.

2. I wouldn't have dated my psycho ex-boyfriend.

3. I would have taken more electives in college, even though this would have meant an extra semester. Between my major and my minor, my program was pretty constrained. I wish I'd taken the extra semester and worked in four or five interesting electives.

I really only have one big giant do-over...

When B and I had our fight at homecoming and gave each other our rings back, instead of sitting there and reconsidering, I would have got up and walked away down the street and to my sisters and been DONE.

I never would have started smoking, because it's so incredibly hard to quit.

That's it... every other "mistake" I've made resulted in so many other things that I couldn't possibly change any of them.

I dont know that I would really do anything over.

-Everything happens for a reason -

I would have, in the tenure of my knowing her, dated her/hung out with more is Leigh. She is the girl who in 5th grade always saved a seat for me on the bus (towards the back, where the cool kids sat) i should have married her after high school, or at least gotten engaged to her. Seriously, i f***ked that one up.

I love your attitude. :D

I don't normally think about these kinds of things but this thread got me thinking about what in my life I would do over...

1. I would have taken college a lot more seriously and picked a totally different major.

2. I would never ever ever have signed up for my first credit card.

3. I wouldn't have started smoking esepcially for the dumb reason I did.

I guess I would just say, if I could do anything over, Id go back to HS and start from there all over. As long as I can keep what I know from now when I go back. Dont want to mess with fate, but Id redo a lot.