Being old fashioned
 

I'm sure everyone is tired of hearing me talk about being old fashioned. However, I think I need some advice when it comes to guys. I haven't had a "real" date in a while, so I decided to post in an online dating site. I have a profile, a picture, etc...but I get, on average, one message a day, if at all, and usually from guys who are 8-10 years my senior. Is this because guys in their mid 20s-early 30-ish not interested in people who are "boring"?

Would you be willing to link to your profile, or copy and paste what it says? That might help, but if you don't want to, that's totally cool too.

Aren't most of the guys who frequent those sites around that age? I thought the sites tended to draw an older crowd among males.

I've seen several profiles of guys who are in their 20s.

You should contact them if you find them interesting.

No $$$$$...it costs money to contact people but none to respond.

OK. I have never dated online so I don't know how it works. My sister met her fiance on a website, but I forget which one.

You're a writer if I remember correctly. Maybe you can convince a newspaper or magazine to pay for it so you can write an article for them about online dating. :)

Good luck.

Perhaps the guys in their 20s also don't have the money (or don't want to pay) to respond but those who are older and more established in their careers are willing to pay to contact.

I did online dating for a while and I really don't think you'll find many "old-fashioned" people on there, because, by nature, it's not the old fashioned way of meeting of people.

Nobody else asked, so I will. Do you look hot in your picture?

I imagine it's because you're using the wrong "bait" - i.e. your profile may not get your personality across in the best way possible.... all the more likely if you're reserved.

You may be on the wrong site, too - I've read a couple articles on the whole online dating thing, and it sounds like if you go somewhere like eharmony.com you'll get a more serious, older crowd, vs. yahoo where you'll get a younger crowd that's mostly looking just to meet people.

Plus, I think you should cough up the dough for at least a month. You can't really say it's not working if it's a for-profit site that works off paying customers, and you're not paying. You're not really giving the site a chance.

And a hot picture wouldn't hurt, either.

I've used the site before and met a guy from it (didn't work out though). That was a couple of years ago, and I got at least two or three messages a day back then, and that was without paying (and from guys in their 20s).

If you think it's your profile, sometimes it helps to have a close friend to write it for you. They will be able to add extra things about you that you might have forgotten to mention.

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secondly, it bothers me that you called yourself boring. You are not boring, but when you begin to think you - thats when you become boring! So don't let yourself fall in that trap. What I'm learning about the single life is that you have to find yourself, before you find someone else. And right now if you're thinking your boring...your prolly not where you should be to get in a relationship. Did that make sense?
You should think you are the ultimate queen! Not some boring GC'er!

:D

Maybe that is why nobody is contacting you - they don't feel like paying for it either.

ALSO - this may not be the way that more "old-fashioned" guys are looking to meet women either. Have you thought about trying a church singles group? I know that at least where I'm from, those tend to attract more traditional people.