When we meet other Phi Mus
 

Okay....I have a general question that I never thought about until now (after watching Legally Blonde II). When we meet a woman that we know is a Phi Mu or we suspect is one-do we have a special dance, song or hand shake we are able to give her as a means of showing we are also Proud Phi Mus?-Any guidance would be great...thanx....

Hmm, that is an interesting question. I'm sure there is, but I feel like it may have been lost over the years.

Lion Love,
emily

Re: When we meet other Phi Mus
 

Not specifically...

this *would mean* you might use are ritual...and thusly should be guarded.

I mean Phi Mu, there is always glee and gushing after that enough to let me know ;)

ETA words between the *s cause I thought faster than I typed this evening!

Turns out one of my managers at Banana Republic is a phi Mu. We just screamed and hugged each other, considering we were helping a PNM and her mother pick recruitment outfits, it wasn't appropriate to do much else. ;)

This summer I ended up going on the first few days of my honeymoon alone (long story) but on the plus side...the first person I met when I arrived at the resort was a wonderful Phi Mu sister. I spotted the letters from across the pool and ran over screaming "hey I'm a Phi Mu!!!" I was so relieved to see those letters, it made me not near as lonely!

This summer I was working at Curves whenI ran into my high school Home Ec teacher. I was wearing my letters, and she told me that she was a Phi Mu too, then she proceded to make a hand gesture with which we are all undoubtably familiar. I have to admit I was shocked, because I've always considered that a part of ritual so that even the motion without the acompanying words was secret. And Curves is a very public place. So, I didn't return the gesture but I did gush over how incredibly exciting that was and how much I love it! But the discomfort over it still stuck with me later. I really feel that the gesture is a part of ritual, and shouldn't be used as a form of recognizing another Phi Mu in a public setting, but was that a practice in the past? Or is it still being used in other places? I met a younger alum at the same job and she didn't use a gesture either, which made me think it might be a tradition that has faded away.

I think revealing any part of ritual, whether they say they're a Phi Mu or not, should not be done. We've all heard stories of people pretending to be in one group or another.

A girl came in my store last week and was looking at Phi Mu Radkos. I asked her what chapter she was from, etc. I told her I was a PM, too, and she took my word for it. I think that's about all you can do these days is just take someone's word. I just wouldn't be shaking someone's hand or saying words I shouldn't if I wasn't 110% sure.