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PhiPsiRuss 06-29-2005 01:32 PM

Women Who Can't Get Pregnant, Adopt, And Then Get Pregnant
 
I've known this to happen to two friends of my family. The women were unable to get pregnant. They then spent a few years going through the adoption process. Right after they adopted, they got pregnant.

Anyone else hear of this?

Senusret I 06-29-2005 01:37 PM

Only on TV.

carnation 06-29-2005 01:39 PM

It happened to my sister-in-law within 6 weeks of adopting and to my husband's first cousin a couple of years later. I have read research, however, that says that adoption with pregnancy afterwards isn't that common.

We've seen a few other adoptive families in which this has happened. It can turn out badly, though, if the couple adopted in hopes of becoming pregnant with their "real" child and then treats the adopted child like poop after said "real" child appears.

Lady Pi Phi 06-29-2005 01:44 PM

It happened to my aunt. She had 3 miscarriages so they decided to adopt. They adopted a little girl and about 3 years later she got preganant. And then she got preganant again. And the she got preganant again.

My aunt just had a little baby boy. She has 4 kids, 3 of them are biologically her's.

The Truth 06-29-2005 01:46 PM

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Originally posted by carnation
then treats the adopted child like poop after said "real" child appears.
For the life of me I can't figure out why this is so dayum funny!
BWWWWWWWWHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAAA

Nikki_DZ 06-29-2005 01:48 PM

My dad's boss and his wife had this happen. Of course, this was in the late 70's/early 80's (their adopted son is my age, and their bio daughter is 23). She was told under no circumstances would she be able to get pregnant, and doctors even recommended she have a complete hysterectomy at 28. Ooops.

My great aunt and uncle were told something similar (it had to do w/ my aunt having lupus and a negative blood type-this was in the late 50's) and were in the final process of adopting an infant (a 2 year timeframe) when she became pregnant w/ my cousin. Lo and behold, 3 years later, she got pregnant again.

33girl 06-29-2005 01:57 PM

One of my coworkers & his wife tried for years & couldn't get pregnant, so they decided to adopt 2 kids from Russia. (Sidenote, this is his 2nd marriage - he was widowed and he already had 2 teenage boys) Get the Russian kids home and sure enough, in a month or so she was pregnant with TWINS. Only one lived, however.

The other sure fire way to get pregnant is to have "what the hell, one last time" sex with your spouse right before you start divorce proceedings.

Rio_Kohitsuji 06-29-2005 01:58 PM

My sister is one of the main social workers for the foster care here and she's seen this happen a lot. She said it's due to one the couple successfully adopts a child they lose a large amount of stress and when that happens......they get pregnant!

damasa 06-29-2005 03:08 PM

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Originally posted by 33girl


The other sure fire way to get pregnant is to have "what the hell, one last time" sex with your spouse right before you start divorce proceedings.

Ex sex is the best.

Not that I would know though, being a good Catholic lad and all...

Taualumna 06-29-2005 03:19 PM

This happened to my great-grandmother! She was already close to 30 and hadn't been pregnant yet (remember, this was like close to 100 years ago, when girls married at like 16), so she and her husband decided to adopt a child from a less fortunate family. But guess what? Great-grandmother discovered that she was pregnant! THey cancelled the adoption process and gave the mother some money. Great-grandmother went on to have three more kids after this one.

PhiPsiRuss 06-29-2005 03:28 PM

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Originally posted by Rio_Kohitsuji
My sister is one of the main social workers for the foster care here and she's seen this happen a lot. She said it's due to one the couple successfully adopts a child they lose a large amount of stress and when that happens......they get pregnant!
I always thought that this might have to do with stress. Where did your sister get the information to form her opinion?

ISUKappa 06-29-2005 03:33 PM

Ah. I wish it were just that easy.

Though relief from stress can help some infertile couples conceive, there's usually other factors involved.

(And if anyone ever tells me to "just relax" I'll kick them in the teeth.)

AOIIsilver 06-29-2005 03:56 PM

Happened to my Godsister. She now has three children, one of whom is adopted.
They are an awesome family!
Silver

winneythepooh7 06-29-2005 04:25 PM

Yeah I've heard it happening. I've also heard of some bad stuff happening with the artificial stuff. Several of my friends do service coordination for children with autism. At least half of all their caseloads of children with autism are children who were conceived artificially. I agree that stress probably has a ton to do with it. Throw in nagging parents too who want grandchildren rightaway and it's no wonder people have more difficulty getting preggers.

valkyrie 06-29-2005 04:29 PM

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Originally posted by winneythepooh7
Yeah I've heard it happening. I've also heard of some bad stuff happening with the artificial stuff. Several of my friends do service coordination for children with autism. At least half of all their caseloads of children with autism are children who were conceived artificially.
I wonder if there have been any studies done on this -- I might look one day when I have some spare time. I have a theory, but I'm curious to learn more about it.


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