Aggressive Versus Assertive
 

In terms of a relationship, what is your definition of:

1) Aggressive

2) Assertive

And cast your vote as to which you feel is better in terms of a relationship.

Like date rape vs just who's pushy?

-Rudey

My sentiments exactly.

Women tend to confuse the two terms aggressive and assertive.

That's why you gotta be upfront about it and while you're ordering them a drink joke about how it'll help her get in your bed quicker.

That's right I have expectations.

-Rudey

Hmmm, I've done that before.

After ordering a drink for a woman I make sure that the bartender hands the drink to me.

I look in her eyes and say very firmly, "If you're not here after what I'm here after, you'll be here after I leave."

I can't remember where I heard that before but it's very effective.

Based on the body language she either gets to keep the drink or I simply hand it to a random female walking by.

Have you ever seen the look in the eyes of a female when her six dollar drink goes walking off in another woman's hands?

Priceless

I had to look "frottage" up online cause I didn't know the meaning of it.

Is that like a front butt?

More like dry humpin til you nut.

Dry humpin: what's in it for me? That sounds about as exciting as unrequited oral sex.

That is fucking hilarious.

I'm definitly going to try that sometime.

Rudey & laidbackfella, while I think some people may not like you're attitude and may call it agressive rather than assertive, for me you're 'tell it like it is' attitude is really just honesty and that's essential for a relationship. I'll be sure to think of some whitty comebacks to those kinds of questions for the next 'just drinks' date I have...

I was simply clarifying that it wasn't front butt.

But if you wanna discuss what's in it for you then hit me in PM http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y40...on_twisted.gif

3 drinks in, if a guy said that to me in a noisy, crowded bar, I'd probably be like, "Wait. What?"



dictionary.com:

frot·tage ( P ) Pronunciation Key (frô-täzh)
n.
The act of rubbing against the body of another person, as in a crowd, to attain sexual gratification.

A method of making a design by placing a piece of paper on top of an object and then rubbing over it, as with a pencil or charcoal.
A design so made.

After you've had three drinks and we're still at the bar I'd be like, "Wait. Where are your single friends?"

Heh. ;)