Giving it up.
 

I've been thinking about a common philosophy among girls...

I've heard it I don't even know how many times, but I just don't understand it. At all.

Why is it that when a girl doesn't like a guy that much she will sleep with him sooner than with a guy she really likes?

That just seems totally ass backwards to me.

?????? Why become intimate with someone you don't like??????

It's not that they don't like them...there is a physical attraction but nothing more than that.

Guys do the same exact thing. Why is that?

Yea, but thats normal for guys. Thats just how it is.

Re: Giving it up.
 

Lots of girls want to enjoy one-time flings or occasional sex with men they don't really know or like. But when it comes to having sex with someone you really do like you don't want to have sex with them for the wrong reasons. You want to wait & make sure that they like you just as much before you do anything that could make your relationship more complicated.

For me-having sex with someone that I don't plan on having a relationship with is just having sex. But having sex with someone that I really want to be with means so much more, because its one of the ways I can show that person affection. And in that case I want to be sure of how I really feel, and how he really feels, before we share that together.

That's just how it is with us, too. What's good for the gander is good for the goose. Accept it.

I think if you dont like the person on that level its easier for feelings to not get as much involved.

However, when you actually want something to become of things, feelings are usually already there so if you sleep with them and they dont want a relationship, feelings get hurt.

Ok girl is really sexually active, she has slept with lots of guys casually (which is cool) but suddenly she likes someone a lot so she makes him wait (not cool for the guy).

If you read socio-biologists they claim that its a nesting instinct.

The girl is willing to form quick sexual liaison with someone she doesn't see relationship potential, but when she sees someone that she sees a future with, she waits sexually which forces the male to to invest more time and resources into the relationship.

I think most people realize unconsciously that the more a guy has to invest in the relationship before the "award", sex, the longer he will stay around .. . to a degree.

Also, the increases sexual tension caused by waiting makes the male fixate on the female . . . in other words he thinks about her a lot more.

Personally, I don't find that promiscious girls that turn it into a waiting game just because they see potential with you are very credible.

Re: Giving it up.
 

It's backwards and stupid. I've never done that.

Re: Giving it up.
 

It is backwards. If I don't like a guy that much, I don't let him anywhere near my bed, or get anywhere near his.

I guess what crz and James said does make sense in a twisted sort of way...

i don't see how it's twisted, just because a girl needs a guy to just give it to her to satisfy an urge. Physical attraction has nothing to do with liking someone. You just have sex for fun sometimes.

Is the air the same on your planet ;) ? Physial attraction is a/the prime component of liking someone romantically.

For me, if I like someone I try to tumble them into my bed ASAP. If I don't like them I try to avoid it on the hopes something better will come along.