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I'm back; let's do this.


Picture this:

You are at a club or a party or the mall or somewhere on campus. A guy approaches you. He is interested in you. He has seen you from afar and likes what he sees. So he steps to you.

You smile at him, maybe engage in some polite conversation but you are not interested. The guy is not daunted.

You see him again. He is a little more persistent. He asks for your number. You give him a fake name and number.

You see him again. He says that the number you gave him does not work, but HE STILL WANTS YOU!!!

Now doesn't this guy because of his PERSISTENCE deserve to be EMBRACED by you! I mean after all, HE CHOSE YOU to want to be with. No matter that he looks like Flava Flav, has more gold teeth than white ones, his pants hang faaaaaaaar from his butt, his breath stanks and you want to buy him a Listerine flavored slurpee, you are not interested in him but he still wants you. He gets indignant with you at the party. He begins to talk loudly about how you ain't that fine anyway and you should be grateful yada yada yada yada.

Now let me bring that scenario closer to home. The same way this guy has approached you is how my sorors on campuses nationwide are approached everyday. If I had a dollar for everytime I heard, "I want to be a Delta," "I think you all are the best sorority," I love to see you all step," etc etc etc I could pay off a loan or a car or self publish my book. Just like you would get tired of the guy haunting you, SOMETIMES my sorors, myself included get tired of "prospects" haunting us. Not everyone who approaches us as Deltas about our organization is sincere. A lot of folks want to be Deltas for the superficial reasons -- stepping, getting fraternity men, partying, blah blah blah. Delta has not stood the test of time based upon those precepts.

My first week at my job, the girl on my team found out I was a Delta. You know what she said? "Girl I always wanted to be a Delta. All the women in my family are Deltas. I love the Deltas. I could have been one at my alma mater but they were shady, blah blah blah." Now that was one of my first impressions of her. While she praised Delta, I sat there non plussed wishing she would train me. Almost 90 days later, I AM SO GLAD SHE IS NOT MY SOROR!! She is one of the most trifling women I have ever met. Every time she talks she AGITATES ME SO BAD!!

My point is if for every woman who told us, "I want to be a Delta," if we accepted EVERY SINGLE LAST ONE JUST for showing interest, Delta would have a lot of dead weight on our hands. MORE than we already have.

Please know that I am not calling you dead weight nor any other interest of DST. However, after having been a DELTA for almost 8 years :D everyone who has interest in Delta does not fit the ideals of Delta.

If I could leave you with some final words, it would be:

RELAX!!! Delta is not going anywhere. She is a beautiful organization and sisterhood 92 years strong.

Instead of bum rushing my sorors, attend their programs, perform community service, make sure your grades are BEYOND a 2.5, and KNOW for certain that Delta is the organization and sisterhood for you.

Know that Delta is bigger than just one person and one chapter. Don't allow your interactions with one ruin the overall organization.

Also first impressions go a long way. Not just in person but on the Internet as well.

As a writer, former English teacher, woman with a B.A. in English, your overuse of ellipses and incorrect use of apostrophes is alarming. I am not saying you have to be grammatically perfect, but my God kill those ellipses. :eek:


Finally, this is not said to be mean. This is said to HELP YOU. I could have just ignored you or let folks come on here and talk about you. If you do decide that Delta is not for you after all, I wish you all of the best in your endeavors.


I think I am done. If not, I will be back.:)

Soror CT4...
You have said it all..if you aint said it before.....

I do believe that since spring;) is somewhere around the corner..more of these "woe-is-me" threads will pop up..and I think that your post is a great welcome mat :)


ok carry on:p

Re: Intrested In becoming a Delta...but maybe having second thoughts...
 

Your ending this post with holla is distressing to me. Otherwise all I will say is that we do not pursue members--they pursue us. You were told what to do--look for the flyers. It was not personal, it was policy. Enuf said.

ETA: Okay I do have one more thing to say. If you are having second thoughts because of what you described above, then maybe Delta is not for you. I suggest researching other orgs. and taking a deep self-inventory of why you want to join a sorority.

Food for Thought
 

1. WHY do you wan't to be a Delta? What is it that attracts you and sets Delta apart in YOUR mind?

2. WHY would you want to be apart of an organization, A SISTERHOOD, where you do not personally know any members?

3. WHY would you email sorors on the same campus instead of going to their events and meeting them FACE-TO-FACE?

4. WHY should they call you, a non-member, to chat about Delta?

I could go on and on BUT please think about these questions. NO RESPONSE IS REQUIRED, just THOUGHT.

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Re: A long reply to the suggestions and recommendations..
 

Your post is just long, awkward, and aggravating.

"Sort of nasty" :confused: :confused: :confused: I want to know specifically from you who posted the nasty replies and give me the exact words.

We gave you some valuable tips and suggestions. Yet instead of just taking what we as MEMBERS are telling you to be HELPFUL and in line with how our sorors at your school feel, you continue to try to explain yourself with all these freaking ellipses. :eek: :eek: :mad: Stop calling them or giving out your number.


~~~>If they were NOT Deltas, would you be pressed to call them or hang out with them?!

Did any of YOUR friends become Deltas!?!? Ask them:

A. what was their BEST and most FAVORABLE approach to Delta?
B. does calling and inviting them to your dorm room for Top Ramen work?

Oh and you still did not answer: WHY DELTA for you? You said you would but you begin to go on and on about how you were trying to e-mail the Deltas on your campus.


P.S. I meant what I said, if you are not a member of Delta Sigma Theta, do not hit the reply or the quote button in this thread. September26libr is exempt.

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Wow...I remember these days!!!!
 

Well, I have been reading the post and this situation reminds me of someone. I see a little bit of myself when I was an interest. However, I had the good fortune of speaking with Treblk (whom I met on GC) who put me on the right path!!!!! I remember being told that if you don't "know" any Delta women than you are not doing enough community service. I was also told to RELAX & RESEARCH to make sure the Delta was the right choice for me. I was not "embraced" by Sorors that I e-mailed (and I e-mailed quite a few) but, I didn't let that sour me towards my goal. I just stepped back for a while and took the advise I was given. I hope that you understand where I'm coming from and I wish you luck!!!

September26,
Look at my signature and you will see I have been a Delta longer than some of my sorors on here have been born. Now I say that because I want you to reaed carefully what I am writing to you.

First, blackerican has given some excellent advice--heed it.

Second, I'll just make it plain. Sorors cannot respond to your emails of wanting to get to know them--that is policy not personal.

Third, you mention a friend who ALMOST joined and she had only been to one social. But you didn't tell us why she ALMOST joined. Could it be she was rejected because she did not participate in more activities, especially service activities?

Fourth, what happens with other organizations has nothing to do with what happens with Delta.

Fifth, your post also tells me that you still have quite a bit of research to do, and buying a book isn't going to do it alone. I got this perception when you said something about pursuing a grad chapter at another campus. You obviously do not know our structure. Have you visited our national website?

Lastly, please take CT4's advice about your writing and the use of ellipses. It gives the impression that you don't understand basic sentence structure. And if you write like that on an application it will not be seriously considered. Message boards are a good place to practice your written communications skills.

You asked for advice, and you received some good suggestions. It wasn't meant to be nasty or sarcastic. It was just honesty. You will need to learn to not be overly sensitive or take everyhing personally if you are going to be successful in functioning in any kind of group.

Good luck!

Re: A long reply to the suggestions and recommendations..
 

I guess I am still confused why you are depending on EMAILING sorors right on your campus? Is your campus that large that you don't have ANY classes or ANY activities or ANY social functions or in the same dorm with ANY Deltas on campus? Also, do ANY of the Deltas you know from different campuses or alumnae know ANY of the Deltas on your campus? I am not tyring to be sarcastic but I really want to know why face-to-face is not an option! I honestly think that the Internet is making people lazier than they already are...

I just wanted to jump in here for a minute, because it hasn't been that long since I was considered an "interest." When I first came to campus and I was interested in Delta, I did not give out my number, or email, or insist on the Deltas to call me so I can get to know them. I simply went to every program and did volunteer work every weekend. Everytime they had a program I was there and they began to recognize my face. The more they saw me, we couldn't help but have conversations and I was able to establish a rapport with them. They knew me because they saw me, I didnt have to work "extra" hard for them to get to know me, I simply showed up, introduced myself and helped out wherever help was needed. Bottom Line. Its not like we are "holding" out on information. People have been very generous and have given you good solid advice. Now if you are serious about joining Delta, heed to the advice and be on your way. Good luck in your endeavours!

Ps: These .... are ellipses ( just in case you didnt know;) )

Sorors,
Check this out:
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...217#post937217

I saw it when she first posted it last night in both Sigma Gamma Rho and Zeta Phi Beta forums. What boggles my mind is that you learn BASIC punctuation first in the first grade. Ellipses do not enter the writing scope until much later. If only, if only . . .