BOYS.. HELP
 

ok well i've been going out with my boyfriend for over a month now... but hes not like the guys i ususally date i really feel something with this one and i honestly love him. and he loves me too.. he tells me how much he loves me and i know hes not lieing. even though i am only 15 .. i'll be 16 in march do u think its too soon to sleep with him.. he tells me that if we did then he would be direpecting me and he doesn't want me to feel that all he wants is sex. so wut do i do??

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In my personal opinion...i believe you should wait..you ahve heard to many horror stories about girlies giving it up to early!! wait and see if the realtionship grows..i knwo for a fact that you guys have had your problems!! wait and see...and take it slow..there should be now rush into something like that!!!
~jewelz~

I do not think you should have sex with him PERIOD (it doesn't sound like he wants to anway). I think you are too young. Furthermore, you and this guy are not married. However, I am realistic and know that in light of these facts you may still do it anyway. If you decide to, be sure to USE A CONDOM and follow the instructions VERY CAREFULLY! NO Condom is 100% safe. Know that if you do have sex you run the risk of ruining your body, reputation, and relationship with this young man, and displeasing GOD (afterall, it is a sin). Aids, Pregnancy, and exagerated stories to friends are all possible outcomes of this situation. Like I said I do not think you should have sex with this boy but you are old enough to think for yourself. Choose WISELY.

"Patience is the companion of wisdom."
Saint Augustine

"There are two main human sins from which all the others derive: impatience and indolence. It was because of impatience that they were expelled from Paradise, it is because of indolence that they do not return. Yet perhaps there is only one major sin: impatience. Because of impatience they were expelled, because of impatience they do not return."
Franz Kafka

indolence - idleness, laziness, apathy

Hello everyone. I just had to reply to this message. I am twenty and will be twenty one very soon and I am a virgin. I was a little older than you when I almost experience sexual activity. As this age I did not want to do this but I was willing to do it because I was being pressured by friends about giving it up. These same friends are ones that did not graduate from high school and have children. With the Grace of God this precious gift was not taken from me. I am so grateful that I did not make that horrible mistake. This is something that I want to experience with my husband and no one else. With God's help and mine also this will be something that I will share with him only. Your purity is something special and sacred. Sometimes I have thought about it and this is want I came up with. By being a virgin I do not have to worry about getting pregnant, (especially since I am poor. Who is going to help me raise a child especially since these days people my age are single parents) having a disease, especially something I can not get rid of. You have a nice and special boyfriend. Obviously he cares a great deal about you. Please do not try and force a sexually relationship with him you will only be driving him away. This is one reason why I am single. I can not seem to find people that are willing to put a sexual relationship on hold in relationship so I am waiting on that special Christian man that feel the same way that I do. Besides girl you have other things you need to be thinking about such as TAAS (if you all have this), high school dances, school activities, football and basketball games, church activites, being young, having fun, hanging out with friends, and still being a child. Besides most people that I know who start off having sex at a early age end up having numerous sexual partners in their life. Do not be in such a hurry to give something precious away that you can not get back. Think about this.. What will you do if you become pregnant? Who will take care of this baby will you are in school? At school dances? hanging with freinds? Studying for school? Please think about this and do not let temptation get in the way. Sorry for the long post but I could have continue somemore.

I think that if you have to ask others if you are ready, then you are not ready. 15 is too young to be worried about sex. Your boyfriend seems to want to wait, so be grateful that he is not one of the boys who try to pressure you to prove your love. Besides, with sex comes other worries; potential pregnancy, diseases and sometimes heartbreak. I'm not saying that you will experience these, but you don't need to have these on your mind now.

Listen sweetie first thing is at 15 are you sure you are in LOVE I mean seriously when you are about 25 you will probably look back at your younger years and laugh at the many times you thought you LOVED someone........Take it from a young single mom who wish she would have waited for that special someone whom she really loved and really loved her, someone she was married tooo, its not worth it! Save it your worth the wait... You can date guys and even love them without sex being involved. Sex is not an exspression of your love for him nor his for you if it does come up a good expression of his love for you would be if he is willing to wait. Sex brings a lot of problems if not dealt with correctly and maturely and when we are young we sometimes confuse sexual feelings with love and that is just not the case and if you do love him or whoever else you might love in your time that does not mean you have to sleep with him.........Your not ready I know this! Your only 15 you should be focusing on school and your future and just plain old being a kid sex is not going anywhere and I promise you you will appreciate it more if you wait and do when it really means something to you and your partner.


LOVE DOES NOT=SEX
SEX DOES NOT=LOVE
LOVE IS LOVE
SEX IS JUST SEX WHICH IS MEANINGLESS UNTIL IT IT IS GENUINELY COMBINED SUFFICIENTLY WITH LOVE WHICH IS IDEALLY SHARED WITH YOUR HUSBAND.

BUT just like Reality Black said if you do it any way PLEASE ALWAYS USE protection.


I am just sharing with you things I wish were shared with me. Much love to young sister I hope you do the right thing http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

I was still playing with dolls at 15!!
But honey, do not rush going to bed with him! Secondly, listen to what he said. If he feels that he will disrespect you by sleeping with you, BELIEVE IT! Besides, I think its great to date someone who has such great respect for you in the first place.