How did (do) you act when...
 

I was just thinking about this because a friend doesn't care for a member of another sorority and is thinking about going out in the Spring...she told me that she doesn't have to be nice to one of the members that crossed this semester; however I advised her that wouldn't be such a good idea to have an attitude or act ugly towards her because she has what you want.

My question is...how did (do) you act when you don't care for one of your line sisters or big sisters? How did you treat them before, during, and after the process? Have you grown to adore them or do you continue to go your separate ways once business and the fun & games are over with?

Also, what would you tell an interestee to do in that scenario?

Going through the process is kind of scary b/c you are wondering if you will get along with your LS's and Big Sisters. Even though it was hard to establish a bond with everyone of my sorors, I made it my own personal goal to get close with each one of them. Yeah, it took some time and patience, but now looking back on it after some of my LS's have graduated, I am so glad that I did. My chapter has sisterhoods that we try to do fun stuff together, without talking about the business of Delta. We encourage new members to work conflicts out if they arise and to be honest about their fellings.

Carebear,

I think that you should tell your friend that being in a sorority is being part of a sisterhood. So, if she can't even be sisterly (loving in spite of) why does she even want to be in the organization? Hmmm...makes you think doesn't it. No, she is not going to get along with them all the time but she must love and respect them. Lack of respect within any organization will bring about it's downfall. It is imperative that she realizes this. No she will not always get along with them but she must try. Perhaps she should try to sit down with this person and explain her feelings. But she mustn't just say "Oh, I'll ignore her and aim for this sisterhood anyway." I think not! Before I was a Delta I loved and respected anything/body that had to do with Delta (I still do), although I may not have liked some things about individuals. She just needs to learn that if she wants to be part of a sisterhood, she must look past holding grudges, not liking people etc... Besides it is ungodly to hold harsh feelings in your heart http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif!!

...and then she was gone

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C.O.N.SPIRACY 13
#4 CANDID
SPR '00
DELTA PHI CHAPTER
BALL STATE UNIVESITY

CAPTIVATING LADIES OF D.S.T.

I HOPE THAT AT SOMETIME DURING YOUR PROCESS YOU CAME ACROSS THE POEM CALLED SISTERHOOD. THIS POEM DEPICTS EVERYTHING THAT SISTERHOOD IS REALLY ALL ABOUT AND IN ONE STANZA IT CLEARLY STATES THAT YOU MUST BE PATIENT WITH EACH OTHER EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER. GRANTED EVERYONE IS NOT GOING TO GET ALONG HARMONIOUSLY BUT YOU MUST ALWAYS RESPECT AND LOVE YOUR SISTERS REGARDLESS OF YOUR DIFFERENCES.

ALL MY LOVE TO THE 11SELECT FEW
SPRING 2000
EPSILON ALPHA

Your friend needs to be cordial or respectful even if she does not particularly like a member. Why? Because as it is known, every member in Delta gets a vote as to who gets in. It may be that one vote that prevents her from making line!!