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How was your wedding?
How was your wedding?
What was involved? Brief details... Did you do anything special? How was your wedding special to you? If at all? How crazy did your folks drive you? Overall, how much did your wedding cost? Who finally paid for it? If you have yet to be married, how would you do your wedding??? |
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I had two ceremonies... The elopement done by a Judge and a formal religious ceremony in Sedona, Arizona... My now husband planned the elopement. I filled out the application you get on line, get is stamped by a Notary Public, he found the Judge to sign all the paperwork and the Judge had a little spiel for us, then we were married... For the religious ceremony, more was involved. My now husband put down the $$$ to save the date. Coordinated with the wedding coordinator. Then the ladies HAD to take over... I was assured only a few bouquets of flowers... That would not do... So, I had to purchase more flowers. Then my mother wanted a banquet. We had a sit-down dinner banquet at a Sedona Hotel. Then we had a post-wedding lunch at another Sedona Hotel. I paid for that. My parents paid the rest. Total cost for the religious cermony--~$9000 dollars... No including Honeymoon. I never have had a honeymoon... :( For the most part my folks were fine. It was my MIL that was psycho... (See my other posts on that issue) The separation from the time we eloped to the formal religious ceremony was about 2 months... A well organized wedding without full planner's capability takes at least 1 year... But that is for the measily 100 person wedding... With more people, it takes longer... I really didn't do any cultural things other than "Jumping the Broom"... (Google Search if you don't know)... So that is about it for my wedding... What about yours? |
I would just show up to anything I was asked to show up to, nod my head in the greatest of sincere attention, and give vaguely worded but intellegent sounding comments that would offer her reassurance enough so that she could feel good about going forward with the plan she had already fantasized about.
I would let her pick out my clothes. I would keep my check book open for all expenses her parents would undoubtedly find some way not to pay. And I would do all this in with the knowledge that for that day, one of the single most important days of MY life, I am merely an accessory to a fanatasy she has had as a child and added to over the years. (This is all assuming one of my friends didn't stage an intervention and save me. Hint Hint Hint. |
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One ceremony - traditional Lutheran service, big party afterwards. What was involved? Brief details... We were engaged for 18 months so I had a lot of time to plan. I did pretty much everything mysef as far as calling and reserving and deciding things. I made our invitations, my mother made all the bridesmaids dresses. Everything else was taken care of by "professionals" (cake, flowers, etc...) We had a buffet style dinner and dance afterwards at a local reception hall. Did you do anything special? How was your wedding special to you? If at all? Well, it was special because it was my wedding. Our wedding favors were mix cds we made ourselves with our favorite songs, people really liked those. How crazy did your folks drive you? We both have great parents. They let us do pretty much what we wanted, how we wanted, without butting in. They only time they would speak up is when they were concerned about costs. Overall, how much did your wedding cost? Who finally paid for it? I'd say just over $10K which is pretty average for this area. My parents paid for most because they paid for my sisters' weddings. IL's helped out some and Mr. ISUKappa and I paid for some, too. |
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We had a Jewish wedding. Our wedding ceremony was very Reform and egalitarian, none of this bride-circling-the-groom nonsense, and an equal exchange of rings instead of just the groom giving the bride a ring. I made sure of that. :p Our reception was at a beautiful resort that put together a wonderful cocktail hour and meal, and we had an amazing band.
My father refused to participate in the wedding, and was close to refusing to attend at all, as he disapproved. :rolleyes: :( It's Jewish tradition that the bride and groom are each walked down the aisle by both parents... he had his mom and dad... I had just mom. I also didn't get a father-daughter dance (not that he knows how to dance anyway...) My mother-in-law was Momzilla. Among other things... SHE wanted the wedding in HER city. SHE wanted all HER friends to be able to attend without inconvenience, and didn't give a rat's patootie about OUR friends, who were mostly poor starving college students and recent graduates who did not have the financial resources to travel. When she found out we were planning to hold the wedding where we lived, she requested information packets from the reception venues we were considering, and then went to the Holiday Inn in her city and priced them out. The Holiday Inn offered a chicken-and-steak dinner. So she made up a cost comparison spreadsheet comparing the Holiday Inn chicken-and-steak dinner to each of our top three venues where she added up the cost of a chicken dinner and a steak dinner for each guest, and tried to convince us to get married in her city because it would be less than half as expensive as our city. Yeah, of course the wedding will be twice as expensive if you serve everybody two meals!! I didn't talk to her for a while after that....... (Edit: We put our foot down and had our wedding in our city.) We paid for our own wedding, with a generous gift from his parents. My parents did not contribute a dime (thanks Dad :rolleyes: ). They did get us a nice gift, though. :confused: To do over again... I would have a very small family-and-close-friends-only wedding. |
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DO NOT HAVE A HUGE 500 SIT DOWN DINNER WITH FULL ON CRATE AND BARREL GIFTS (Unless you want those items)... I thought Home Depot had a Groom's Registry--how's that for powertools... You might also be suited for either a destination wedding or a wild weekend wedding... Any woman that would marry you would have to not have princess fairytale ideas about getting married--unless that was what you wanted??? Hmmmm :rolleyes: |
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So many things went wrong that day that it was pathetic (including the groom!), but as we still tease, "It was a beautiful day!" My veil (with flowers matching my bouquet) was delivered three hours prior to the service, and the glue wasn't dry (this I realized when I tried to take it off, and it was stuck in my hair!). Two hours prior to the service, I found out that my future inlaws were NOT letting us use their pink Caddy, so I was at the carwash... :rolleyes: What was involved? Brief details... Four bridesmaids (oddly, 2 ADPis and 2 Phi Mus) and a flower girl all in pink with violets in their bouquets; it was on a Friday evening (only time we could get the club); one friend's present was the flowers, another's was the cake (which I really don't suggest doing, as I found it impossible to say, "That's NOT what I wanted!!" to either of them); 125 people at a buffet dinner at the local club with wine & cheese first; open bar; GREAT disc jockey!; lots of dancing! Did you do anything special? How was your wedding special to you? If at all? If I believed in omens, I would have cancelled everything, as somebody I knew (2 friends & my favorite aunt) passed away each time I was given a shower. My gift to each of my bridesmaids was a Waterford pendant (we are all Irish), which they loved having, and I loved seeing! My sisters also formed a Friendship Circle & serenaded us at the reception. How crazy did your folks drive you? Mine could not have been better, but his parents just wouldn't give an inch on a thing. While my then MIL was getting a manicure & her hair done, my mother was arguing with the guy in charge of setting up the seats at the club. Overall, how much did your wedding cost? Who finally paid for it? I don't believe in spending a lot on weddings, but I think this went to about $10K, which my parents insisted on paying for. Sidenote: My crystal pattern went on sale for the two weeks prior to the wedding. Guess who has service for 16 in every imaginable style of crystal glassware? Hope that helps! |
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One ceremony - we had a formal but civil ceremony at the Canterbury Chapel at the Excalibur Hotel and Casino in Las Vegas What was involved? Brief details... We were engaged for almost 2 years. As soon as we were engaged we looked at each other and said "Vegas". My family is mostly Baptist or AME (ya know the sistahs in the Amen corner type). His mother is Pentecostal. I am pretty much agnostic and he is atheist (his mother is still in denial about that). :) We did NOT want a religious ceremony. My family was in VA and other parts of the East Coast, and his were spread out in British Columbia and Quebec. In Vegas, we didn't have to worry about keeping folx entertained. In January 2001, we went to Vegas to pick out the wedding chapel. The Excalibur was last on my list because I wasn't crazy about the hotel...too many kids running around. But I learned not to judge a book by its cover. We saw the chapel and it blew us away...it kinda looked like an Old English Church. We did one additional trip before the wedding to nail down the planning. I pretty much did everything myself (Mr. 1228 was travelling on business a lot) Everything else was taken care of by "professionals" (cake, flowers, etc...) We had a buffet/family style dinner/reception at one of the oldest Italian Restaurants in Las Vegas Did you do anything special? How was your wedding special to you? If at all? Well, it was special because it was my wedding. Our wedding favors were personalized playing cards (which were a big hit). Folx loved our Save the Date letters. I had a friend make us a broom to jump (more on that later) How crazy did your folks drive you? Not too bad because I didn't let them. If my mom had her way, it woulda been 300 guests and a huge church. (my parents have been divorced for AGES) I wasn't having that. Besides, if you ain't putting dime one into the wedding, you can't say jack! :D Mother in law was cool, she was just glad that we were getting hitched. (His father died in 1976). Mr. 1228 was previously married and has a kid from his previous marriage. The kid didn't take it too well at first but he got over it pretty quick. (He was 10 at the time). My sister couldn't come because of work (I was fine with that because she wasn't gonna be in my wedding party anyway). This is the tough part, cause one of the things my "sperm donor" (who I now refer to him as) did was the straw that broke the camel's back. Long story short: 3 months earlier, I chatted with the SD and he said he was looking forward to it and to find him a good rate. (I wanted both parents to walk me down the aisle) I called him a week later and I got Mr. Attitude, who made up a whole bunch of excuses and finally said: "You and I haven't had the best relationship. I will let you know by the first of October" That was 9/01 and I ain't heard from his ass since. He was not at my wedding and to add insult to injury, Mr. "I don't like to travel" drove 6 hours south to stay with my 37 year old sister (who didn't want to be alone while my mom and brother were in Vegas). I didn't get a call, card, nothing from him. I haven't spoken to him since and don't intend to. (that was the short story...I can tell you the long one via PM) Overall, how much did your wedding cost? Who finally paid for it? Our wedding was under 10K including everything except the rings and we didn't have a honeymoon :( That also included flight, hotel and reception, dresses and all that SNAFUs: I left the rings in the hotel room safe of the previous hotel we stayed in (we got them the next day) but had to use my e-ring for the ceremony My bouquet fell apart in the pix before the ceremony. I called the flower shop and got medieval on their ass...they refunded me I forgot the broom so we didn't jump the broom :( Other than that, everything was wonderful |
I forgot: As per chapter tradition, all the Kappa girls that were at the wedding (about 20) serenaded Mr ISUKappa (including my older biological sister and my little Kappa legacy niece (who was 3 mos old)).
SNAFU: Most of them were really minor: we did pictures beforehand and ran out of time on some of the family ones I would have liked, the flower shop never ordered boutinnieres for the ushers but we had enough taking them from other people who didn't really need them but we had one MAJOR one. 10 days before the wedding, my husband was playing flag football and popped the tendon off the top of his right ring finger. He had to have hand surgery 4 days before the wedding to reattach it and had to have a full forearm brace on for 7 weeks afterwards. In our wedding pictures, it looks like he has a sock puppet on (there are pictures floating around on here somewhere). We laugh about it now but it wasn't quite as funny at the time. |
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We had a sort of religious ceremony in a hotel ballroom in DC. We had a rabbi officiate, but he was a VERY liberal rabbi (I'm not even jewish). While we used a number of jewish traditions, I didn't really think of it as a jewish wedding. I actually wrote the ceremony myself. What was involved? Brief details... My best friend (and sorority sister) was my maid of honor. Another very close friend was my "man of honor." His brother and his best friend were his groomsmen. It was a fairly traditional reception - about 100 people for dinner, drinks and dancing with cake and lots of flowers. Did you do anything special? How was your wedding special to you? If at all? Well it was my wedding so of course it was special. One of my favorite things was the fact that after the reception was over, my whole extended family and close friends (basically everyone staying in the hotel) all ended up partying in the hotel bar until about 4am. My wedding had an after-party. :cool: How crazy did your folks drive you? My folks were fabulous and pretty much let us plan everything the way we wanted, (but they live on the other side of the country so it's a little more difficult for them to be overbearing.) His parents live in the area, unfortunately. His mother was fine. I hated his father by the end of the whole ordeal. His father's only responsibility was planning the rehearsal dinner and he kept insisting that it be held at a steak house, despite the fact that pretty much my whole family are vegetarians. :rolleyes: We finally settled on a nice, inexpensive Italian place that served steak and he spent the entire evening glaring sullenly at the rest of the table. We also had several guest list arguments - short version is that he kept trying to add people at the last minute and didn't care that we were already over budget. Overall, how much did your wedding cost? Who finally paid for it? Well. . .it was over budget. Weddings in DC are expensive, but we managed to keep it under the average. We were very fortunate to have my parents pay for most of it. His parents paid for the rehearsal dinner. Snafus Well other than the rehearsal dinner from hell. . .the hotel where the wedding was decided to re-tile the lobby floor the week of my wedding. Despite repeated assurances that the tile would be done by the actual wedding day, it wasn't and the lobby vaguely resembled a war zone with yellow caution tape strewn everywhere. There were other issues with the hotel too and I have to say, the only time I went bridezilla during the whole planning process was dealing with that stupid hotel. But we managed to get some of our money back from them. Despite all the problems, we still had a great time though, and that's all that matters! |
Oh, yes, my wedding snafu: On the night before the wedding, I decided to stay at the hotel where the reception hall was. (Reception hall was lovely, with very professional staff. Hotel - not so much.) I booked my room well in advance. They tried to stick me in a tiny little room with a twin bed! Other guests (paying the same rate) had much nicer, larger rooms with king, queen, or 2 double beds, and the hotel was definitely not full. My out-of-town bridesmaid offered to switch rooms, which was sweet of her, but I was on the warpath, since I knew they had better rooms available. And they did... they handed me the key to a different room. I got to the room, unlocked the door, and discovered a couple of suitcases. The room was occupied! :rolleyes: After I went medieval on the front desk staff (do not upset a bride), they offered me a very nice room in the hotel's tower at the same rate (these rooms are normally quite a bit more expensive).
So I got up to the room and checked over all my things. Dress, check; slip, check; hose, check; makeup, check; jewelry, check; shoes - OH SH**!!! My poor husband had to drive all the way back into the city, late at night, to retrieve my shoes from our apartment. Yet he married me anyway :) |
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My elopement was perfect. I didn't havta plan at thing so everything was a wonderful suprise that I wouldn't trade anything for in the world...
The formal religious ceremony... Well... We should have paid for that "vortex tour" in Sedona, Arizona for my MIL... How one can be bitchy in such a spiritual place is beyond me... But we were ready to send his mama towards some kind of Epiphany... Any kind... David's Bridal my have inexpensive wedding dresses, but they you have to wear 2 sizes higher than your own... And they rip you off with alterations... At least the "buy off the rack" dresses are in many locations--coast to coast... And I chose a dress that was a two piece. Not a fanciful, debutante dress I wore back when I was 16... Mind you once we had the wedding ceremony in the "chapel" in Sedona--when I wanted the "Chapel on the Hill"--a Roman Catholic Church that only catholics were allowed--then later to find out they let other folks of different denominations or religions use the chapel... And I wanted dinner in the Enchantment Resort, but the dayum planner would not plan that for us... (Another story)... All this to say: I FELL DOWN DURING PICTURES!!! I scuffed by $200 sandals... Didn't mess up my dress. Ruined my head bouquet... Oh well... But, we were already married which didn't make a difference... We paid the photographer too much money when my sister in law took better pictures to begin with... And there were side arguments I didn't find out till recently between my mom and my MIL... Oh well. At least my husband and I are happy... :D |
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Mr. KR and I were married twice and both weddings were just dandy :) What was involved? Brief details... Wedding Number One Took place about 4 months after we met. We were already planning our upcoming church wedding, but the ever-practical Mr. KR was concerned that I didn't have health insurance through my job. He suggested that we just go in front of a JP and get married so I could get my military ID. Wedding Number Two Took place at the Naval Academy Chapel with a reception afterward at the Officers' Club. It was a small affair, around 75 people, but it was wonderful because we were surrounded by all of our favorite people (including one of my DZ sisters who flew in from Europe to be in the wedding) Did you do anything special? How was your wedding special to you? If at all? The sword arch was pretty cool, as were all the tourists standing outside of the chapel waiting for us to come out. I guess we're in some folks' home movies! How crazy did your folks drive you? My folks were awesome! His folks, his mom in particular, was a manipulative bitch who literally broke into tears whenever Mr. KR would try to explain that it was a small reception room and we wouldn't have the space to invite people he hadn't seen since he was 8 :rolleyes: Overall, how much did your wedding cost? Who finally paid for it? All told, my gown and accessories, reception and honeymoon cost around 12K. Not including the rings. We paid for it ourselves; mostly him, though. |
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