Is it ok to get pissed at girls for stuff they did when...
 

I did my fair share of partying last year, and often I would invite girls who were either friends, or that I was attracted to over to my house. Most of the time I would drink more than them, but always stay sober enough to make sure they were ok and that no random dude tried anything with them. Anyways, a lot of times, these girls would either get really sick and I would take care of them, or they would really piss me off by getting too flirty with guys right in front of me knowing that I liked them. The next day, usually I would get apologies, but is my anger/jealousy unwarranted just because they were drunk? Also on the same token, a lot of times girls will say things, and get all lovey dubby on you when they are drinking and then the next day either forget it happenned, or pretend it didn't happen. Sorry for being all over the place here, kinda just looking for some insight.

I think you should set guidelines with these girls before they come over to party with you. Just makes sense is everyone knows everyone else's motives, then if you get angry later and they knew why before hand.

Do you assume that these girls know you like them, are have you actually told them before and they flat out know?

If you like the girl let her know before the drinking begins. And even then, it is best that you do non-alcohol related things if you are trying to get involved with someone new. You could always go out and have a glass of wine or two with dinner but inviting a girl over where there's lots of booze involved often can lead to problems and confusion and hurt feelings. I personally would have no respect for a guy that only had me over to his house to drink and I wouldn't take a guy seriously if he told me he had feelings for me while he had been drinking.

You really can't get mad at them if your relationship is not clearly defined ahead of time. Although usually girls are better at reading undercurrents than we boys are.

It sounds like you are approaching girls you like romantically in "friend mode", thats got to confuse the hell out of them. So be clear, when you invite them to a party they are there with you, or not at all. Otherwise they are just using you as an invite.

Completely agree with James. Girls know if you like them or not, but if you don't spell it out and continue to bring them places, they're just going to take advantage of invites without having to do the "dating" thing (this is if they are only interested in you as a friend.) Trust me...I do it ALL the time...and while I am all for nice guys...some of you are just TOO nice!! There's no reason the guy who keeps bringing me to parties and bars now even though he knows I am seeing someone at school should keep it up, but he does.....and cant get mad because he never tells me he likes me or says that it bothers him

She was aware...she wouldn't be calling me in the phone and apologizing in tears if she didn't know. But despite the apology, it still is a kick in the teeth.

OK we all know hitting a girl is wrong, but I have heard of shaking girls. You're not hitting them, there are no bruises, just lots of shaking.

-Rudey
--I just don't care enough either way

lol that reminded me of Chris Rock... "i aint gonna hit you, but i will SHAKE THE $HIT Outta you!"

I agree with you. Unless it was my boyfriend, I would think that a guy who would invite me over to a party was just a friend. If he said he liked me I wouldn't believe it because he was drinking. Case in point Tell her how it is. Never assume. Guys don't like it when girls make assumptions so you shouldn't make them either.