Thug Love
 

A highly educated, professional friend of mine recently ended a lengthy, ugly marriage with an admitted abusive thug. After 2-3 years of beatdowns, blackeyes, lies, children by other women, and watching him "keep it real," she finally had enough, but the sex alone strung her out to a total of 7 years. I had warned her beforehand, yet she admitted what a lot of women often say: The man they marry, no matter how educated, professional or successful, HAS to have some "thug" in him.

Tell me it ain't so ladies, but if so, why???

Wanting a man with a little thug in him is one thing...having Ike Turner as a husband is quite another.

... No man is "hitting me off" that good that I'm willing to endure mental and physical pain!

Now, I will be the first to admit, ain't nothin' wrong with a little thuggish-ruggish. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

BUT

It ain't no requirement for my life mate! That's some mess right there.

Well, what exactly do we mean by "thug?" If you sayin' he needs to be able to hold his own, then yeah, nobody wants to marry a b!tch. However, if you mean he was a former gang banger or jail bird or some mess like that, nah. No requirements for that. You might not even get the job with those credentials.

Soror, I know that's right!

LOL Soror!
I need a lil crunch in my munch as well!

Well Dirty, I don't know about a true "thug", but I do want a man who can hold his own. My sweetie hasn't been to college, however, he's highly intelligent and speaks very well, but if push comes to shove, he can get "thugged out"!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif I don't think I'd want him acting thuggish all the time though. Of course, people perceive thuggish differently also. So, I guess it's all how you look at it. My ideal man would be 10% Tupac, 40% Cedric the Entertainer, and 50% Tavis Smiley...IMHO http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

My thoughts exactly, IdealO8.

I am so turned off by weak, indecisive men. Have a spine, but keep the fists to yourself.

Oh now come on; I know some of y'all out there have been holding out for Pookies, Puff-Daddy's and Bobby Browns--let's hear the real truth!

Ain't somebody still attracted to the original King Of R&B??? lol

I used to say that I wanted a man with some "thug" to him but I realized that I was just intrigued by characters in movies who were educated, witty, sexy, attractive and was still able to take care of his woman if some danger came along. ie (Tango and Cash) I equated the "adventure" in a man with being a "thuging" Now, I've learned I don't want the "thug" I want a man who has the qualities I listed earlier AND who can handle and take care of himself and me if ever a situation called for it. And I am blessed to have one sent my way (smile)

Girl,I'm feeling you but I think I would have to raise that Tupac percentage up just a lil bit more! (Guns, drugs and death aside of course)I would also have to raise Cedric too, decrease Tavis just a little and throw in some Blair Underwood.

I don't know about no Pookie....but I have to admit I find Bobby Brown kind of attractive. (Lawd, I KNOW I'm going to get clowned for this one!)

Consider yourself CLOWNED!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif No you didn't say that!!! LOL, girl I can't even handle you!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Frat,

They don't want to tell the truth. Some of our sisters are sitting home right now talking bout "I ain't gonna put up with that shyt no more. You better do right - this time"

My boyfriend is a "thug in remission" with ambition but he's not abusive towards me. Though we have different approaches to situations and are somewhat opposite in many ways,we get along very well, (as I consider him my best friend). He's honest , which is an important quality that I look for in a mate. A man can be abusive, whether thugged out, or reserved and quiet and once that happens, it's time to let go and move on.

I with THICKNCHOCLATE on this one...my man has not been to college but he is very intelligent and STRAIGHT from Detroit so you know he got a whole lot of Thug-life going on. Once while we were in Paris two Paris thugs (I know French thugs?) tried to pick-pocket him on the subway... how do you say "BAD IDEA" in french? And when we get dressed and go to the law firm's dinners he holds his own in ever discussion so I have the best of both worlds. I must admit I've done some polishing but then he's given me some lessons too so it's all good. PLUS HE JUST GAVE ME THAT ROCK and got on his knee and popped the question... so I'm taking my thug right to the chapel.

[This message has been edited by Oh Drama! (edited June 26, 2001).]