One Angry Soror!
 

Sorors, I am so angry - I could just spit. Today, this guy walked past me and said, "Hey Skee Wee." I jokingly said, "Ah you don't know anything about that." He told me that I would be surprised at what he knew. He and his other frat brothers started laughing. Anyway, he did something that only we should no about. The other guys started saying things that only we should know about. I was boiling! I put on my best acting face and jokingly said, "You guys are crazy." They told me that I didn't have to admit to anything because their girlfriends and ex-girlfriends had told them everything concerning Alpha Kappa Alpha. One of the guys even started talking about Delta. He said that his girlfriend just pledged Delta and she said blah blah blah. I stopped him and told him that that was Delta's business and noone elses. They all laughed and said, "That damn bedroom talk will get it everytime." This is not the first time that I have heard that our sorors have been running their mouthes. It just makes me so angry. As I walked away, I could hear them singing our hymn. When we were going through the process, our big sisters told us that AKA busines is AKA business - and that's the bottom line!!!!! Sorors everything that those guys said and did was CORRECT! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/mad.gif What is really going on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Please excuse my reply, but this is SHOCKING!!

I don't know about the rest of my sisters in Greekdom but when I enter a bedroom and there is a man in it, one of the last things on my mind is DST. I have other things that I need to focus on when I get there http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif This is in reference to one of the comments about bedroom talk.

I can't believe that some members of AKA as well as DST are revealing secret information. That information is privileged, G13 CLASSIFIED. It's just like certain FAMILY SECRETS unless you are part of the FAMILY you can't know the secret. I regret that this happens as well as the other negative things that happen reflecting our lifestyles as Greeks. I think that those guys are also at fault because JUST BECAUSE you know the information does not mean you have to throw it up in people's faces.

This all goes back to discretion.

P.S. I had to reply now because the school system implemented a filtering system on all computers and GC has been blocked for a month now http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

That's crazy. First you never tell ANYONE your frat's or sorror's information. I have heard of poeple telling their girlfriends and spouses our secrets. That's crazy. My wife or girlfriend didn't join Kappa, I did.

Conskeeted19, you did right by not even acknowledging it. I had a frat brother that was given the grip by someone who was not frat, and he just ignored it like it was nothing.

When we find these memebers of our orgs who do this, they should be delt with accordingly.

MN

Girl, I know that's right!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

I can't believe that mess. I just don't understand it. I mean, really. I don't know what to say about the loose lips. I will say this, though. If someone else's (DST, ZPB, etc.) info were to come to me, I wouldn't remember it. Why would I want to? And if it did stick in my mind, I wouldn't regurgitate the information!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif I have better things to do with my memory cells. And to sing the hymn?!?!?! That's a little much. I mean, they didn't just HEAR the info in the bedroom, they LEARNED it. That's a little different.

I've experienced this kind of baiting before, and it's best just to shake your head, laugh and go silently about your business. Saying ANYTHING to people (usually sixth-year frat guys with too much time on their hands) like this just eggs them on.



[This message has been edited by Discogoddess (edited March 23, 2001).]

I know what you mean, people do not use good judgment anymore. We have to remember what kind of people we are letting in the organizations. We must use sound and long judgement before we do.

Sphinxpoet

It all goes back to the "process" of becoming a member-- and no I am not talking about hazing.

An old school soror (195?) who explained to me that once you made your sorority intentions known --there was a semester of "observation" this was a time during which them members of XWZ sorority watched you in both formal and informal settings and basically decided if you were 'worthy'..

Then there was a semester of pledging.. and from what she told me there was no hitting and such foolishness...but they were taught the ins and out of social graces

So in a nutshell we are not teaching our new sorors that
DISCRETION is the KEY to Keep the unity when everyone knows out our bussiness goes
So discrestion means prudent knowing when to be silent....etc

Well I am sure some of you know the rest of the poem...

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IVY in my HAND-- AKA in my HEART

[This message has been edited by loviest95 (edited March 23, 2001).]

[This message has been edited by loviest95 (edited March 23, 2001).]

Loviest95, your post was on point! I totally agree.

Bravo!

Thank you for articulating the thoughts of mine and other members of sororities. Back in the 1950's, there was a pledge club. It was a group of ladies interested in a sorority and their purpose was to perform community service. The members of the sororities were able to observe them and make decisions on whether they were "sorority material". But being in a pledge club did not guarantee membership. You still had to go through the application and pledge process and you could still be rejected.

Discretion is a necessary trait to be in a sorority. Sorority business should only be discussed between sorority members.

Snuggles
DST

i totally agree with my sorors and sisterfriends...

but my thing is...why would you disrespect another organization by putting their business out in the open.

did it make these guys feel any better telling this information? is it all for a good laugh.

a true greek would leave it be...there is nothing to gain from passing secrets and gossip about other greeks.

these people are just lonely and need attention.



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MaMaBuddha

Devastating
Stimulating
Tantalizing
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Imaginer un métro rempli avec les anges tombés...

Oh, to bring back the Ivy Leaf Pledge Club! When will we stop acting up so we can get back to those days???

well said soror DG!

Ideal08 you done said a mouthful!!!!!


Discretion Discretion Discretion!!!!!

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You are the master of your own destiny!

*nodding my head in agreement*

Fellow Greeks, 'we' need to police ourselves and our frat/sorors. The behavior displayed by these so-called men and their so-called girlfriends is absolutely deplorable.

*hanging my head in shame and scratching it in confusion*



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MCCOYRED
Mu Psi '86
BaltCo Alumnae

Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

Help us all!

And these will be our FUTURE representatives, INTERNATIONALLY... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif

Help us!

[This message has been edited by AKA2D '91 (edited March 23, 2001).]

Soror you couldn't have said it better. This is getting to be out of control. Sorors we really need to start taking our process alot more serious....I have some girlfriends that I dearly love, but I know they do not have the social graces to be apart of such a exquisite organization. We need to stop allowing the process to be for the ones we like to kick it with, but doesn't really meet our standards. I pray that we get back to what our founders posessed.

I'm sorry call me concieted if you want, but I don't need to reaveal my history or wear paraphanelia to be recognized as a lady of pink and green...It is all over me...When I walk, talk, and dress. Before I became a lady of pink and green I pocessed an essence that one would have thought I was already a member. So, loviest95 I feel you in every way. Those were some insightful words soror. IF we could just get sorors to take heed, we would represent the creed.