Would you let your father's mistress....
 

OK, last night, I was watching the series Soul Food on Showtime. The Joseph sisters discovered that when their father was living, he had a mistress and a child. The child (Tyra Banks) came to town to honor her mother's dying wish... to be buried next to the man she loved. After much bickering and threats, the sisters decided to allow Tyra's character to bury her mother next to their father... so at the grave site, he was between his mistress and his wife. I don't think I could have done it! What about you guys? Would you have accepted this, and would you accept this outside child as your sister?

I think I would be able to accept the child as my sister...but as far as burying the lady next to my father and mother...that is another story!

I was just thinking the same thing http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif.

The episode was a major trip. What really took me out was when the "sister" asked them why they finally looked her up.

I think that I would definitely have problems with that situation. Especially if I had no idea that this sibling existed.

I agree with Catwoman. My sister is my sister but unless I knew that my father wanted to be buried next to that woman, it wouldn't happen.

I would not accept her as my sister, nor would I allow her to bury some homewrecker next to my parents.

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i would accept her as my sister by birth, but her adulterous mama would not be buried near my mother.

I know that is real! I would NEVER DISRESPECT MY MOTHER LIKE THAT!

First of all, who is the adulterer to have any wants FROM SOMEONE ELSE'S HUSBAND!

I know that is real! I would NEVER DISRESPECT MY MOTHER LIKE THAT!

First of all, who is the adulterer to have any wants?

She had best been buried some other place!


THE NERVE! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif

Well I guess I have it kind of easy because my mother and my father are separated so therefore If my dad had another child by another woman would be alright with me. I'm the only child and would love a sister. So therefore I would accept her into my life with open arms praying that it would be returned. So if her mother's wish was to be buried next to my dad I don't see why not.

I, too, saw the episode last night and I must agree with the general concensus. I would (eventually) accept the woman as my sister; I was no fault of hers that she was born into an adulterous relationship. But let some other woman I never knew about rest next to my father--not gon' be able to do it! (even though HE cheated) because I do believe that would disrespect my mother. Especially in that situation, cuz y'all know she knew about the relationship--the man was never home on Christmas? You know back then, wives didn't leave like they do nowadays. And she forgave his a** and stayed? No way. No disrespect, but she'd have to be buried over yonder some where. Sister would just have to deal.

I would definitely accept her as my sister, but she probably wouldn't accept me. There is absolutely NO WAY I would have allowed that woman to be buried next to MY daddy. I would have had to tell her that, unfortunately, I don't feel as strongly about her mother's dying wish as she does. It would be enough to find out after my father's passing that he even had a mistress! Can you even imagine the havoc that would wreak on you mentally?? To find out that much of what you thought you knew was a lie? There are very few things that I feel super strongly about, and marriage is one of them. It's too sacred. To allow her to be buried next to my father, especially with my mother right next to him, would not only be totally disrespectful to her (mommy), but it would be like I was cool with all that went down, and I would not be cool with that at all.

As a man, I'd have to say that I would accept this person as my brother/sister. However out of deep love and respect for my mother, I'd never let their mother be buried next to my father and my mother. What kind of dying wish was that?

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Exactly.

I agree with the majority. I could accept her as my sister (I've been in that situation before, but that is another story and thread), but I wouldn't allow the mother to be buried next to my parents. The husband has already disrespected his wife, and I wouldn't allow it to happen again.

Hello everyone. I would not let some child from my father's mistress bury HER mother next to my parents. I would not understand that while she the mistres was alive she wasn't trying to make it a known fact that she wanted to be my father's partner she wasn't fighting to stand by his side. She was willing to remain a secret. So why then in death is it that now she wants to defame my family publicly but still not fight her own battle....she is using her daughther. I think she should remain in the role she accepted while she was living......a mistress! And as for accepting the daughter as a sister....I'd really have to think on that one.

[This message has been edited by affinity8 (edited January 05, 2001).]