Getting "Stood Up"
 

Recently, this last week, my sorority planned a really nice social with one of the fraternities on campus. I wont say the name of the fraternity, but I dont think what they did was right. The night before, their social chair contacted ours and said that the school was having a concert for a local band and that some of his brothers may leave early for it. That was fine. We bought chips and drinks and made decorations and everything. The next night, not one of their 60 brothers showed up. Is there something that can be done? Said appropriately? Aren't there rules governing those type of things? Nobody contacted us about cancelling it. I am thinking that they may have cancelled because we are the sorority that "doesnt put out", excuse us for being that way, but anyways.... Has this ever happened to anyone else out there? I am just curious! The night before they even had a date auction funraiser and we all showed up to support other greeks on campus. HElp Help Help!!!

maybe talk to the person or people who agreed that they would show up? find out what happened...

That is terrible! I think that your president ought to talk to theirs.

I would ask their prez & social chair to come to your next meeting and make a formal apology to the entire sisterhood. That kind of behavior is just inexcusable. If they didn't want to mix with you because they thought they wouldn't get any pooter, they should not have scheduled it to begin with.

Also, I don't know how big of an event this concert was, but it might be better for you to not schedule mixers on nights when there are campus-wide events that a lot of people want to attend.

I have heard of fraternities and sororities blowing off mixers, but they at least sent over the pledge class...for not a one of them to show up...well, they'd have to work their way up to asshole in my book.

I would seriously get their advisor involved. That's just wrong what they did to you. There is NO excuse for it. I would also put a word out on campus to the other sororities and try to get everyone else to cancel anything they have planned with them and not to plan anything else with them for the rest of the semester. They don't deserve the company of any sorority.

So true! They owe you more than an apology... but you'll probably never get it. Put the word out.

you know what. . .this sounds really immature
and it doesn't really help make the fraternity image any better
however, what's the use of getting all upset and in a frantic?
instead, just plan mixers with other organizations on campus

our sorority is straying from the mixer idea
and we're doing more 'bring your own Greek date' mixers
if you do it right, you can plan a BYOGD mixer for every fraternity
and when you get to their fraternity, you could either invite only a certain number of the guys

thank goodness we don't have that problem
otherwise, we'd be 'cracking skulls'

I would like to say I'm so sorry about what happened. I was the social chair for my sorority last semester and I know how it feel to not have the best outcome in participation but to have a whole fraternity not show up that awful.
I thought one of the major parts of being greek was to promote greek unity amongst all chapters, and for them to do that was just wrong. I would definetly contact them and at least get an apology.

Oh and dont even think that is has to do with not "putting out". we had the rep and personally if guys cant show up because of that they are immature. keep that reputaion because within time the guys will appreciate it. Belive me cuz our guys just recently had told us that we were "Classy".


GoodLuck!

There is absolutely no excuse for what this fraternity did, barring the death of a brother! Most certainly, an official apology is called for - and if not received within a certain amount of days, I would get your Greek Advisor involved.

Remember to be gracious in accepting their apology, however. So gracious that you send them a gift - such as an etiquette book! Not one of these brothers has enough class to merit a job in the business world, IMHO.

As for the reputation, I have always cherished what several fraternities said about us: "You date a ____ or a _____, but you marry an ADPi!" Keep your chins and standards up!!

I'm so mad about this...
 

...I'm here for part two!

A fraternity had this happen to them when I was in school. The sorority showed up for the required half-hour, then left en masse. Their social chairman was my roomie's boyfriend, and he called her. She got about 15 members of our chapter to go at the last minute. They all had a wonderful time!

They were "supposedly" told that the social was for that Saturday, when it was really Friday. BS. They like to hang out with one sorority only, they tend to not pay attention to others. They even call themselves big brothers of the sorority, which is against the rules.... Ugh!

What they did was totally inexcusable. I agree with ztabchbum when she said to get their advisor involved. I also agree with Peaches-n-Cream when she said your chapter president should talk to their chapter's president. You have every right to demand an apology.


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Bumping this because I'd really like to know the outcome.

Did the guys come through, or do you need some really good ideas for revenge? ;)

Their social chair had an emergency apendectomy. (He had his apendix removed) and they apologized profusely.
We invited them to an event but it was the evening of their formal so they wrote us an apology letter explaining that they were very sorry they could not attend.
But they dont have a problem with us apparently. We sit next to them at football games, but another sorority sits ontop of them. We all mingle though.... So everything is all good!

Are you sure they were telling you the truth about the apendectomy? Before the mixer even took place their social called to say some of their members had to leave early for the concert. Their next excuse was they had the days mixed up and they thought the mixer was on Sat vs Friday. Now they are telling you about the apendectomy. When you tried to reschedule they told you they were busy with a formal. I'm a little skeptical.