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jewelladpi 09-26-2003 02:52 PM

<> Sis question
 
My roommate gets her little <> sis on Monday. I want to get them both something because this means my "family" is getting bigger. But I don't know what to get them, or even if I should get them anything. Could someone please help?!:confused:

polarpi 09-26-2003 05:06 PM

Something that I did was get a fabric pattern that became our "family" letters....I made a set for myself and my diamond, and we made a set for her diamond sister....this is a fun way to spend time together and also show how much you mean to one another. Even something as small as their favorite type of candy or a card saying how glad you are to call them a sister is enough of a gift at times. Just show your love for them and for the organization in any one of a number of different ways!

Best of luck! :)

jewelladpi 09-26-2003 05:41 PM

Thanks so much. I think I'm going to do so thing like the letters thing. All three of us are nursing majors so I think I'll use that to the best of my abilitys too. Thank you again.

juliebug 09-30-2003 11:01 PM

I have a question... i was told by my dia. sister today that you arent "suppose" to give you dia. sister (big) and presents/gifts or anything. I asked her if i could anyway, and she said yes... and i plan on giving her something, but what is up with that?

honeychile 09-30-2003 11:41 PM

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Originally posted by juliebug
I have a question... i was told by my dia. sister today that you arent "suppose" to give you dia. sister (big) and presents/gifts or anything. I asked her if i could anyway, and she said yes... and i plan on giving her something, but what is up with that?
Every chapter has its own traditions. The best way to get the real scoop is to ask your NME or another sister who you trust, and see what your chapter's tradition involves.

FWIW, I see nothing wrong with getting a giftie for your diamond.

texas*princess 10-01-2003 12:54 PM

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Originally posted by juliebug
I have a question... i was told by my dia. sister today that you arent "suppose" to give you dia. sister (big) and presents/gifts or anything. I asked her if i could anyway, and she said yes... and i plan on giving her something, but what is up with that?
Maybe what they mean is that it isn't 'mandatory'? Like you don't *HAVE* to if you don't really want to?

If that is the case, I think it is maybe because of our Risk Management policy. ADPi does not want its' new members to feel they "HAVE" to do something they might not want to.

I don't know if you saw last season of MTV's Sorority Life, but the sorority on last season made it mandatory for the "littles" to make/give gifts to their "bigs". Like I said before, ADPi doesn't want their new members to feel like they are being forced to do something they may not want to.

:)

juliebug 10-02-2003 02:15 PM

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Originally posted by texas*princess
Maybe what they mean is that it isn't 'mandatory'? Like you don't *HAVE* to if you don't really want to?

If that is the case, I think it is maybe because of our Risk Management policy. ADPi does not want its' new members to feel they "HAVE" to do something they might not want to.

I don't know if you saw last season of MTV's Sorority Life, but the sorority on last season made it mandatory for the "littles" to make/give gifts to their "bigs". Like I said before, ADPi doesn't want their new members to feel like they are being forced to do something they may not want to.

:)

Yes, i saw SL2 and i noticed that they "made" them make/give gifts.

What you said makes complete sense... i asked my <> sis straight out b/c we are that close and all is well :)

adpiucf 10-02-2003 02:52 PM

My 2 cents. You don't have to make or give a gift, but a diamond sister spends so much time trying to make a new member feel comfortable, that even a thank-you letter means so much. Anything that comes from the heart is going to be well-received.

ADPi is moving toward (trying to!) get the chapter budget to pay for all gifts, so that the delta diamond sister is not burdened financially.

At my chapter, we had a policy of doing a gift exchange off-grounds so that diamond sisters could give each other gifts, yet no one would feel "left out" seeing if someone else got more gifts or bigger and better gifts than someone else. Our on-site gift traditions included:

1) At the Black Diamond Ceremony, we would present our diamond sisters with bookmark (and a bible provided by the chapter that was turned to a significant passage)
2) At Blue and White Day, we would group by Prides and this was a night where you would receive a framed poem from your delta diamond. The theme of the poem was "My Wish for You" and the delta would take a piece of existing writing or write her own thoughts. This also became a night for "pass down" gifts.
3) At initation, after the ceremonies, we would have cake and then we would go outside where there was a huge diamond on the ground formed from many diamond shaped pieces of wood. Each delta diamond sister was provided with this diamond board by the chapter and she decorated it for her alpha diamond sister (fabric, wood letters, paint, etc.). Typically, off-site, the delta diamond sister would also give her alpha diamond a letter-jersey shirt, a lavaliere and other gifts like alphie lions, ADPi novelty gifts and homemade items with letters on it. The Alpha Diamond would usually give a wood gift to the delta, and maybe some other homemade ADPi gifts, too.

When I went alum, I became very close with an alpha who pledged the following fall. While she was in initation, I had her roommates let me into their apartment and I decorated her room with posters and blue and white streamers. I had a big box of gifts and a card waiting for her when she got home. Oh and this is the best part! I created a bunch of little poems that were written on cards throughout the apartment, and you were led in a straight path with little pawprints I had made-- she loved it! :) To this day, we refer to each other as Adopted Diamonds (in our chapter, an alpha and delta who weren't diamonds might become very close and they would unofficially call each other Adopted Diamonds-- or you would call them "Cubic Zirconias" or CZ's!)

;)

polarpi 10-02-2003 07:02 PM

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Originally posted by adpiucf
To this day, we refer to each other as Adopted Diamonds (in our chapter, an alpha and delta who weren't diamonds might become very close and they would unofficially call each other Adopted Diamonds-- or you would call them "Cubic Zirconias" or CZ's!)
I like the cubic zirconia idea....my chapter also had unofficial "adopted" diamonds.....I adopted my roommate from Cambridge's diamond when she was unable to attend her diamonds Alpha retreat, so I have her, and my roommate adopted my diamond, and we just called each other "Psuedo" diamonds.....I'm so close to all of them! :)


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