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[COLOR=blue] hello- ok last night I found out that that I wasn't going to be able to have the little that I wanted out of a pledge class of five- the girl that I got- I voted against during Rush but I got over ruled and they gave her a bid- I'm rush chair and have been a member since early spring- I have recruited probably 12-15 girls for my sorority- even before being rush chair and we were dying off before my pledge class came along. Because of this- I was extremely hurt also, my big is the pledgemom and did this to me b/c apparently i said that I wanted to take her during a formal rush event- basically I'm the example for everyone... also this comes after I had been told by our president that people have been getting really upset with me b/c i started to take over rush this infringed upon others positions- i can understand taht- but it hurt that these people didn't come to me directly- obviously i feel attacked at this point- to make matters worse our alumni (we're local) have been around the house all summer and on weekends helping with the house- they have done an amazing job and we are all grateful- however- one of the alumni has taken it upon herself to basically call me out whenever she deems necessary- which seems to be allll the time- at a meeting she decided to blatenly call me a whore b/c i made a comment with letters on...... soo basically long story short- I am incredibly incredibly upset and am having a hard time with this- possibly thinking abotu dissafiliating... i'm not going to take the little i got b/c i don't think that its fair to her to have a big that probably won't treat her the same- and i know that i am better than that and can do a much better job- and i'd rather give her someone else that will help her.... ultimately- am i over reacting? I feel like if i can't trust them- then what is the point and i'm always doing something wrong in their eyes... what do you think? i just had to get this off my chest- :confused: thanks

Well, as for how they are treating you that I am sorry! Your little is another subject, trust me there is drama around me when it comes to bigs and lils, when I was a lil and got my big I cried for personal reasons. The big I got had a common illness that split my best friend and I not a year before I joined and I was VERY afraid of getting close to someone who had the same illness, so I cried. To this day I feel horrible I did that. She wanted me and I cried. You have to understand a lil is something so special and it is not her fault they are making an example of you (which again I highly dissagree with) If you feel you can mend your ideas of her from recruitment take her, but if not let her have a big that will be a good big, because everyone deserves love and repect from the girls from their chapter. Good Luck, and when you become a big if it is now or later, it seems that you are very driven and will help her a lot.

last night at chapter our vpII (new member mom) told us that she had heard people telling potential new members that they were wanted as littles; we haven't even had bid day yet; these girls were coming down for recruitment events and there's no guarantee yet of who's coming back; we were told that if we tell a pnm that we want her for a little, we won't be able to take one this semester; and personally, i think its a good idea; telling someone that they're going to be your little is just like dirty rushing and i would never do it; what happens if she's not your little and she gets upset? even worse, what if she doesn't get a bid?

i can understand that- but she already had a bid from us- I decided not to take the girl that was given to me- i thought someone else could do a better job with her...

Same advice I gave Betarulz, maybe you can learn something from each other?

You cannot try to teach her in the ways of the Organization? Can you learn something from her?

Dont cry to hard, make up runs. and the Heart grows sad! Maybe to much so!:(

I never had a little!

"Riddle, how did I have 6 century tree, with no little?"

If I never had a little, How Did I have 600+ Littles?