Soror Question?
 

Sorors, I have been MIA from GC for a lttle while, and their maybe a thread on this....but here I go.....

In the past week I have received several PM from SF inquiring about AKA. NOW SF's ('cause I know you are reading this too) I am in no way saying that I mind, I am just wondering if any other Sorors are experincing this. I have met and become froiends with several SF's through this site.

Like I said, I do not mind answering questions or giving my opinion or advice, but in this day and age, Sorors, we have to be careful. And I will protect my pearls and livlihood at all cost.

SFs you don't understand this, but Sorors have to be careful, so if we seem distant or reluctant it is more than likely because we are just protecting ourselves. We are not being conskeeted or standoffish, and I am sure we want to remain approachable, but there are other factors that must be considered.

Interesting Soror,

When I first crossed in to AKA land I decided that I would not behave like some of the greeks I had come in contact with before becoming a member......

My perspective has changed as a soror.... I agree- we do have to protect ourselves. The last thing I want is for some crazyyyyyyyyyyyy sf to call nationals and say I said or did something to her- which would be totally untrue because I would NEVER do anything to lose my pearls. I have heard stories of interest lying on my sorors. As you can tell by the Innocence22 post- not all sf are cool to interact with.


Of course I am a woman PHRIST AND FOREMOST. I do my BEST to treat everyone with respect. Unfortunately, I have found that I have to keep my distance for those reasons. It also annoys me when interest think I am going to hand over private AKA information to them. I will answer a general question but I feel most information THEY need to know can be found by doing research. I never once asked a question of any soror on this forum before becoming one myself. If I did not feel comfortable enough to ask the sorors I already knew- I did not ask.... I figured that I would know all I need to know when it is was time.


Of course I understand the level of patience, persistence, and dedication once must have when pursing my sorority. I have only been a member for a little over 9 months. But as they say- patience is a virtue. I am not dissing the sf on this forum or any forum. I have been where you are and I know what it feels like. I am pretty sure that most sf on this forum are cool. But you really do not know who you are dealing with- especially on a public forum such as this one.

I understand why things are the way they are and why sorors behave the way they do. We have to protect ourselves. Lastly, no sf has ever e-mailed me to ask me a question about membership. Maybe because I hardly post on this forum or because I am not inviting. Whatever the reason-OH Well! I got my pearls. :D :cool: :)

I was told if someone expresses an interest to tell nicely to contact the president of the local undergrad or graduate chapter and let them handle the situation.

Re: Soror Question?
 

Soror Ideal and I were just having this conversation at our chapter retreat. The issue came up because a Soror was persistently being contacted by an interest. Soror didn't know interest from Sam and the interest got her email address off a public website.

Unless an interest is specifically asking about my chapter, I can’t tell her anything. Why? It’s either public info which they can find on their own or private information (self-explanatory). For those who don't know the meaning because they have dropped out of school or have a false sense of reality PRIVATE MEANING YOU DON’T NEED TO KNOW UNTIL YOU BECOME A MEMBER, IF YOU BECOME A MEMBER.

Honestly, what can we say? If we aren't on their campus, we can't state, "do this, that and the other". Also, the smallest things can be misconstrued as hazing these days. For instance, lets say you are in Wendy's and an interest sees your AKA key chain. She comes up to you expressing interest and you ask, "why are you interested in AKA…blah, blah, blah”. God forbid she gets rejected, calls HQ's or worse Soror Joy and is like, "well I did an interview with an AKA at Wendy's and I bought her lunch. I know it sounds ridiculous, but peep the "Confession" thread. People are crazy. I must say though the SF’s that have contacted me were very cordial and their approach was appreciated.

If AKA comes up among the SF's I intereact with, it's because I'm letting them know about a program or event that we are having. I guess it depends on your comfort level with the SF, but we still have to watch what’s said.

This leads into another issue we discussed- members giving out WAY too much information. Interest don't need to know how much it costs to join a grad chapter, what they need to join a grad chapter, how we vote on certain issues, etc. They will find that out if and when they are selected for membership. If I don't know the dealings of the chapter down the street and I'm a member, an interest most certainly doesn't need to know the dealings of an org they don't belong to.


PS: I hope all is well with you Soror. Due to last minute information, we didn’t make it to the archives. So we will try to set another date.

Wariness
 

I think the Confession thread, strangely enough, gives a good reason why we have to be careful about information. Some things are on a need-to-know basis, and should be kept that way.

As an aside, I'm rarely pestered by interests. Maybe it's because I'm old or because I live in SoCal. Dunno ((shrugs)).

Ditto..
 

That is what I do.....;)

Re: Wariness
 

That is the reason why I posted this thread....SF can become very dirty, and some take "BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY" to literally. Sorors, please be careful, and maybe on GC we can all agree to have them contact the Corporate office.

{shaking my head} I have my pearls, and guess what? I work hard for them, and I am keeping them!

A different take...
 

I am still new to the sorority, so I am doubtful that anyone would come to me or approach me about my process or anything related to Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. And if they would, I would direct them to our website and online forums where they can find out about events in their area. I can't "help" them in any way, so no need to waste my time or theirs.

Sorors, I do have a different take on this issue. Take the same things Soror AKA4MJ mentioned above and ask the same question about someone you have personally known for a while, not the "random, unknown" interested. Perhaps someone who was seeking Alpha Kappa Alpha the same time you were, an interest who was pursuing the same chapter, etc. and for whatever reason has not attained membership.

Sorors, how do you or how do you think a fellow soror should handle such inquires?

~pnc

This is why it was placed in the POW that we do NOT entertain questions regarding membership. This happened WAYYYYYYYYY before the Cali incident. If sorors individually wanted to answer, then that's fine. But with the way things are now, I would not say anything. I don't want anyone calling me asking me to come in to answer questions because someone said AKA2D from GC said this....ohhhhh no!

(I'm being funny, but folks are suing left and right for everything and anything.)

If someone has any questions, the BEST thing for her to do is contact the local chapter (UG or Grad) or our website.

I am laughing my butt off at Soror MsAKAdemics' AKA2D. :D I hear ya Soror! I GOT MINE TOO and I AIN'T GETTING IT TAKEN 4 NODAYUMBODY BY NO ONE...YA HEAR!

Adding to answer Soror PNC: If it's an UG, tell her to focus on her education, service, etc. IF she submits and is accepted-GOOD. If she is denied, continue with her academic pursuits.

If she is a Grad interest-she has to keep on keeping on! One day sorors may see her as being the type of person they would like to ask to join the organization. (Notice, I said sororS-plural).

thanks...
 

Gotcha soror ;)

thanks for chiming in. Always good to see/know how other sorors are handling things such as this.

~pnc

Re: Sisterfriend
 

The line said soror question.

I was gonna let it go, since she is the cause of the thread....
 

{{{{chuckling and SMH}}}

Re: Re: Sisterfriend
 

Yes, SOROR QUESTION..not SF...Membership HAS IT's PRIVLEDGES...

But for real....I started to give an explanation, but I don't have to. Sorors, do you feel me?

Soror AKA2D, do you have ESP or something??? LOL

Man, I feel like a grump
 

But after all, Sorors, reading is fundamental and as Soror AKA4MJ said, membership has its privileges. ;)

Now that I am a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. I have friends who think since we are cool I will tell them all sorts of things like things they could actually research and find out. I always tell them "look, I worked my but off to get where i am now and you know this, so why don't you do the same thing, nothing is going to be handed to you in a pretty pink package with a green bow wrapped around it, that's just not how it works"
i even had a roommate in college that was an AKA and she knew I wanted to be an AKA but I never asked her for any information, not even about functions because all of it was publicly advertised *you may had to look for it* but it was advertised.