How do I find out...
 

...what a guys feelings for me are?

I know youre all going to say... ask him! But I am shy around guys I like... and I dont want to scare him away - but I want to know what he wants out of this, whatever it is.

We've known eachother since the beginnig of May. We talk online, on the phone etc. He stayed at my place once, I stayed at his. We've kissed... he pays when we go eat, even if I offer. He comes to visit me when Im here, even though it is an hour away.

What do I do?

Don't ask...bad idea. Take things as they go. I've found out that if you start asking questions about feelings early it sorta scares guys off. Now if you want to clarify what sort of relationship you two have that's okay but I'd still just take things as they go and ask as they progress. Often times it's nice to just let things ride out and not ask the questions...it keeps the relationship fresh. Sooner or later you'll figure out if you're boyfriend/girlfriend or just friends by the attitudes and how often you all hang out.;)

Re: How do I find out...
 

No, don 't ask him.

Most guys will be scared off quickly by that approach - they shouldn't but they are, if after a little while the "what are we, how do you feel?" questions start.

Just go with the flow, and if it works, you'll see how he feels.

He likes you. You don't need to analyze it or discuss it. Just enjoy! :D

you took the words right out of my mouth..

Re: How do I find out...
 

it's true Angel, i do like ya ;)

Sounds from what you've described that he's interested. I mean, personally, if i'm driving an hour to see a girl, it's because i really like her and not just because i want to be friends.

I wouldn't come out and ask him about it though, that seems like you're being overanalytical and it might scare him.

Kitso
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