Feeling betrayed.......
 

I DAed from my house last year and one of my best friends (and roomate) DPed from hers. I am friends w/ a lot of the girls in her old house and hang out there a lot. She never associates w/ anyone besides one girl she has a class with. She does nothing w/ the greek system and basically looks down upon me even if I attend a philanthropy event. Today, one of my friends in her old house called to tell me that supposedly my friend is planning on going thru spring rush and wants back into the house...she is telling people I talked her into it and that she regrets her decision. I feel totally betrayed and hurt that should we say that about me.....also how do you think the house feels about her? This just seems completely out of left field to me & Im unsure of how to react

People can be really stinky sometimes, especially when they "want" something. She is trying to cover her tracks by casting blame on you. This, she feels, will help her attain her goal of getting back in the house.

She does nothing w/ the greek system and basically looks down upon me even if I attend a philanthropy event.
...and you consider her your best friend?

also how do you think the house feels about her?
That's a hard question. If they are in need of "numbers", it may not matter to them initially. If they are a "top" house, they may take a "You blew it" attitude.

The truth USUALLY comes out in words or deeds. It may not show right away, but considering the amount of commitment involved in membership to a GLO, her reasons will eventually become clear.

Maybe she really feels she made a mistake. Maybe your DAing spurred her on even though you didn't intend your feelings to color hers. Perhaps she is more a follower than a leader and she is bouncing around trying to find her niche.

My advice-let it play out. Don't concern yourself with her ambiguity. In a small campus setting, this can be difficult but
why concern yourself with another house? Sometimes friendships are put to a test, and those that know you will eventually see the real deal. It's hard to protect yourself against words (much less lies) but the less you react to what she says, the deeper the hole she will dig. However, when faced with a bald faced lie, a reply of, "That's simply not true." is appropriate ... as may be some new friends.

Re: Feeling betrayed.......
 

I don't know how your org works, but I did not think this was possible. At least in DG you are either an active sister or an alumna. There is not such thing as deactivate (someone correct me if I'm wrong on this one). You can completely drop out (ie resign your membership) but then you can never, ever go back and you can never join another npc (I think).

Her friend depledged...she wasn't fully initiated. After a year she can repledge her old sorority or another one.

Re: Re: Feeling betrayed.......
 

33girl is right, but I will clarify this anyway:

In some orgs. (mine included), you can be reinstated after DAing, but it is a very difficult process. You can't, however, join another NPC.