A question for my Bruhs.....
 

Ok, this is about these scantily clad women in these videos (and everywhere else). Ok, me and my ex were watching TV the other day, and this lady said that she felt that men were immature the way that they have these women dressed in these videos. My ex got offended and said that women need to understand that that is what men want to see. Ok, I understand that sex sells. I also understand that men like to look at these women dressed like this. I bear no double standards. The D'Angelo video was sexy as hell. However, I wouldn't want to see men like this in every video.

My question is this: What else do men find physically attractive/sexy about a woman besides her being half naked?

Is it the presentation? Like the Bilal video for Soul Sista. I think that's a sexy video that was done much more tastefully than these boody bouncing videos.

Enlighten me, Frat, tell me what yall think!

Yeah, what do you all think?

***Waiting patiently for answers***

Do we have to get into this? Can't we all just get along?

I think as "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder", so is "sexy". I think the challenge for ladies today is NOT to show it, but to leave it up to the imagination of the man. When a lady with the "right contour" comes into a club dressed casually, baggy sweatshirt and baggy fitting pants, her bodyparts will say hello-despite what she wears. Even though she's fully clothed, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know she has a nice body. When my woman and I go out dressed casually, most of the men in the club notice her for the same reasons I did. Her eyes, her lips, her hair, her face, HER BODY; it all comes together SO WELL, and she doesn't even have to flaunt it!!!

Yall know the way yall do yall's lips when yall sayin': uhm hum! (that little pucker)? Well, that's sexy to me. The way yall stand when yall are justifiably angry; and the way yall sit when yall are tryin' to be "provocative", that too, is sexy to me. There are many ways for all of yall to increase yall's sexual appeal to a man WITHOUT TAKIN' IT OFF.

ummmm hum! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Thanks Original for giving such an honest answer.

It's what works for me! I mean, to each his own. I like checkin' the boody videos too, but showing all that aint necessary to start my engine!



[This message has been edited by The Original Ape (edited December 29, 2000).]

I don't know a great deal about those type of videohoes (lol) anymore. As I have become older I dislike much of the music that is now current. I like old school music that did not have a video.

If I had to say what I find sexy it would be the way a BLACK woman with long hair flings it over her shoulders and behind her ears. When I am holding my girl I start to feel something when she pulls her hair back as if she saying I'm ready. I also love a pair of sexy lips.

HA HA HA HA HA HA HA http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Well, I guess "I'm a sucker for cornrows and manicured toes.." Just kidding.

For me, it has always depended on the woman. Common denominators that are always attractive to me are intelligence, confidence, compassion and a great sense of humor. In my younger days, I am proud to say that some women that I dated were considered by most to be fat or otherwise physically unattractive but I didn't care because they had sexy personalities. And it wasn't that I was unattractive...I was fairly cute and buff, back in the day...was president of my college chapter and all. So, I dated all kinds of women.

All that said, If a woman looks good, I don't mind seeing her scantily clad or butt naked!!! In my younger days, that was all good, even though I also liked other things (listed above). In my opinion, there is nothing quite like a beautiful black woman.

But, I am older now (38) and have a five year old daughter. My perspective has changed over the years. Watching women "back that ass up" on my TV screen is not really interesting anymore. My wife dresses quite plainly, with no make-up. She is beautiful naturally, although she would probably be even more attractive if she dressed up and the whole nine yards. But we don't live that way and I find her to be completely appealing.

So, I'm all over the map on this one. Physical beauty is not the most important thing in life. But it is damn nice. Or it was nice for me back in the day. Now, I am old-school and married, so the booty videos do not impress me at all.

On the other hand, I will always stop to savor any video that Toni Braxton is in!!!!

Can I get an Amen from my peeps in the house?

Frat I'm with you on that Toni Braxton thing. But check this out, a radio announcer said she had breast implants and that they moved under her armpits. I'm beginning to wonder how much of her beauty is all natural.

Also, I want to know how a fake tit feels. Any sisters in the house that can help a brother out - merely for the experience.

Hey,
Those vidoes you are referring to are "all the same" sex does sale now! I'm now 32yrs. old, I have an old school style when it comes to music,so I don't get into most vidoes becuse they are all about sex now. Yes, some of those females are physically attractive, but as brother put it earlier, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Leave some for the imagination, PLEASE! My wife has natural beauty, looks very beautiful once she use alittle make-up. But, her personality and brown eyes is what really got me.

ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!

Hey Prof. Go to Victoria's Secret in Crabtree. As soon as you walk(walk past the lingerie and ugly gradma draws) and look to the right (near the dressing room) and they have some of these fake tit-tees(ha) that you can put in your bra. They're supposed to feel real because they're made of silicon. They're around 120 something. And they have them in different colors for ethnicities as well.

Yeah I was checking them out. Then I hit a growth spurt.

he he, she said a "growth spurt" http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif