Someone asking questions?
 

In reference to a topic that I saw posted below...have any of you men been asked by your girlfriend and/or wife about what goes on in you fraternity? What was your response? What was her reaction?

Yes my girl asked me. I told her it was secret, had nothing to do with women, and to respect me on this. Naturally she tried in every way she could to get SUMPIN' out of me, but I was just TOO HARD!

Try to explain to her that the information is secret first and foremost and that telling her would be breaking an oaththat you take very seriously. If that fails... you've got a nosey ass woman but never the less, I'm sure you love her anyway. So what I do is lie to her. Make up some farfetched lie to shut her up. That way, everybody's happy.

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Frat business is frat business - -

I tell my woman, that fraternity business is private, nothing to talk about unless you are "FRAT"! She understands that, I must have my own activities outside our relationship.

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The 'mind-your-own-business' stance seems rather harsh to me. Beginning with "manly deeds, scholarship and love for all mankind", I would argue that much of the "business" of Alpha can be shared with a loved one and the general public.

Now, if someone wants to know about rituals, or intimate details about how business is conducted that is another matter.

My father belonged to IUL in Maryland and my mother is not Greek. He never shared with her any private information about fraternity business. Still, a lot of what went on was apparrent in the community service that was provided or the other public activities of the chapter. Also, as kids, my brother and I had to fold the chapter newsletter...a copy of which was always in the letter holder. There was no "secret" information there, but one could read all about what was "going on".

I probably just misread or misunderstood what you meant by "what goes on". I certainly believe that there are private parts of "frat business". Still, I think that it is important to share with others (i.e., loved ones and those who are not "frat")the history, purpose, goals and ideals for which we work.

Brother wait until you are married.I married a woman who attended schools where there were no greek organizations.Although she has a masters degree she still dosent know the greek alphabets.I just take it for granted that every College graduate know all the greek symbols.She questions everything the Frat does,I take her to every function we have and she still ask me questions about the meetings,what happened ,whp was there,why can't she attend.She always ask why we are so secret,why we have a secret handshake,why don't I show it to her.She dosen't understand the bond that we have even though we all went to different schools.( I'm active in a grad chapter)She accused me of putting the Frat before her.She wants to know why the brothers call and what we talked about.I'm praying that she finds out about one of the Sororities and gets invited to pledge.Ive talked to other newlywed brothers and their non-greek wives.But be tactful and explain why and the nature of greek letter organizations,I would never lie to her about anything concerning the Fraternity.I tell her simply that "membership has it's privilege."

PLEASE don't wish she pledges. If she asks questions like this, we may have to 'pledge' her! (just kidding http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif ).

Try introducing your woman/wife to other frat's wives; maybe she would then get the hint that she shouldn't be so nosy (they will school her, for sure http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif )!

My non-Greek husband asks questions sometimes and I just smile http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif then he knows to back off because if I wanted to answer his question then I would.




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