Little sister problem
 

I have a problem, i am garduating in the spring and i have decided that i want to take another little. The problem is, is that the little i already have doesnt want me to take another one, and on top of that she is our new member educator now. She is like completely against it, how can i get her to change her mind and let me take another one because i really want too.

Why doesn't she want you to take another little? Is it personal, in that she doesn't want you to be spoiling anyone other than her? Or is it uncommon for someone about to graduate to take a little, and because of her position as New Member Ed that she doesn't want you to do it?
With only a few months left, there won't be much time to develop the relationship, and if she is an underclassman she will be orphaned prematurely. If these are her objections, I would let it go. .
Or, I'd wait until after the new members rank sisters, and if a particular girl ranks you and you really want her, you might be able to make a case then. But, just because you aren't someone's Big doesn't mean you can't spoil her and have a close friendship.

I'd like to ask WHY you want to take another little the semester that you graduate?
Coming from a chapter that in the past sometimes HAD to let seniors take littles (i took one fall of my senior year, i kind of had to b/c of numbers, but it wasn't a big deal b/c I was staying in the area after graduation- she's now my roommate), this usually isn't a good thing. You need more than half a semester to truly bond with a little. There's only been one occasion that I remember that a senior took one in spring. She was graduating in the fall, but wouldn't be active after the spring. She made all these promises about being around for her little, but she wasn't. She showed up to maybe 2 things, and now doesn't even keep in contact with her. I was only with MY big for 2 semester, she ended up having to leave school, and that was rough sometimes not having a big as I went through things. We still keep in contact though, and we've had a strong bond since I met her pre-rush.
Please, taking littles is a blast (i have 3 of them!), but think of them. As much fun as it can be now, it's going to suck when you're not there. It's not really fair to them.
Let someone else have the chance to take a little and experience the fun.
Fall of my senior year there were only a couple girls that didn't take littles. I would've gladly gone without one for one of them to have one, but sadly, the rankings didn't work out that way and they weren't even remotely on some new members lists. I thought it was fair that I'd already had the joy of a little twice, and my greediness for littles (I LOVE BIG LITTLES!) wasn't right to justify not giving someone else the chance.

I have to agree....
 

Everything always depends on the situation, and if it is your best friend from high school going through and you really want to be her big, talk to your litte. Or suggest that your little take her as her little. Then she'll stay in your family line. I know at my chapter, the whole family spoiled NMs, not just their bigs.

But if it's just for the sake of having two littles, it's not fair to them to have you graduate so quickly after taking them in to your family. I pledged in the fall and took a little in the Spring (I was very gung-ho), my big graduated in May and then my little had to leave the sisterhood for personal reasons the following Spring semester. It left me all alone and it wasn't easy. Usually the cheery, mother-like one hugging everyone and wishing congratualtions after every event, I was slipping out the backdoor to get out of the family excitement. It's not easy.

You can still be a great friend and role model to any incoming sister, but think about how it will affect them if you take a little and then are gone.

Allison

A little NEEDS not only a good Big Sis, but a GREAT Big Sis. I don't now about your chapter and the number of events they plan, but its pretty crummy when your Big is too busy or not around. What will happen after you gaduate? Will there be someone to "adopt" her? Who will be there for her the next three years?

I completely agree with what everyone said...unless there are more pledges than sisters and you HAVE to take a little, don't. Unless it's someone who the entire sorority knows well and her having a big is just somewhat of a formality.

littles are so fun. however, remember that even though she's a little of someone doesn't mean you can't 'adopt' her. last semester, i had a girl that i was attached at the hip to but i didn't think i'd have the grades to have one the next semester. . .plus, i was changing schools. so, i ended up not getting a little. . .and i was upset because i had bonded with one of the new girls. so, i 'adopted' her and she always called me her big. her big didn't really care because i saved her tons of cash(when it comes to phi sig, i get carried away in blue and gold).


so, just adopt someone.




'We ain't going nowhere. . .we can't be stopped. . .We're Phi Sigs for life. . .'

I don't think that you should take a little unless you have to because you need time to develop that strong bond and because you should want to be an awesome big to your little. I have a big that's going to be leaving next year, so I only have a year with her. I love her to death, but you can just adopt someone. Hey, I already have to adopted big's and an adopted twin! Think about how much pain it'll cause your lil when you leave and haven't had the time to truly be the best big you can be.

I agree with what everybody said. I was a NM this year, and it was tough for me to make my Big list. I didn't really want a senior to be my Big because I wanted to have someone to develop a relationship with for as long as possible. My cousin happens to be a senior, and I put her on my list, but a few down. The majority of our chapter ended up with a Little.

I ended up with my first choice (and I was hers), and I adore her. She's a sophomore, so I know we'll have lots of time to bond, especially when I move into the house next year. I'm her first and only Little, which is kind of fun. ;) Boy does she spoil me. :)

But you don't have to be a Big to be close to a new girl. I'm close with a lot of the other girls in the chapter. I'd say get to know the NMs, hang out with them and stuff, but give someone else the chance to take a Little, unless you have to.

I bet one reason your Little doesn't want you to take another one is because she's New Member Educator. She's probably pretty close to the girls, and doesn't want any of them to end up Big-less so quickly.

I'm not a real big fan of taking multiple littles. My big sis has three littles, and I was lucky to be the first because she spoiled me a lot more than she did the others. However, none of us hang around in the same circles, so even though we all share the same big sis, we barely know each other. When it came times to choose "family" letter shirts, we ended up with two or three different designs...it was a mess.

While I agree that bigs and littles should have a strong bond, I also think that they should be well matched, personality wise. I joined in my sophomore year, and my big wound up being a girl I had a class with, simply for the sake that I didn't know the others as well and I figured she was nice. Well, she was nice, but our personalities totally clashed. And, everytime I tried to hang out with her or anything, she never wanted to. And she never asked me to hang out. After that first semester, I was ignored, basically. At the beginning of my senior year I had a class with her, and she wouldn't even acknowledge me. Needless to say, I felt pretty bad. However, there had been a senior who would have been a perfect match for me. We could be twins! And she's always been there for her littles that she took. I would have preferred a close relationship with a long distance big than a nonexistent one with a sister at school. As it turned out, another girl adopted me fall semester of my senior year, seeing as how for all intentions I was basically an orphan. She's in the same family as the senior I wanted to be matched with.

My big sis student taught the semester after my initiation, so I only had her for a semester.

Still though, it doesn't really bother me. I still see her occasionally...she works in town, and she still comes to our rituals whenever she can. After she graduated another sister "adopted" me.

I say, it depends on the situation. If you think you'll still be around after graduation, at least some, then I say it's okay.