Urgent situation - - need suggestions ASAP!!
 

Alright..This may be a little long, but I'd like to give the proper background..

I live in a house with five other girls. The newest girl just moved in like a week ago, even though she's not technically moved in yet. She signed the lease but hasn't moved all her stuff here yet, she just sleeps on the couch. We'll call her Daisy (why?? I'm not sure..).

Okay, so everything is gravy....We meet Daisy. She seems nice enough, if not trying to fit in a little too hard.. She's younger than us (the youngest of us have been out of high school for two years now) and she just graduated a few months ago. She was going to sign the lease and we had no major objections, so.. you guessed it, Daisy is the newest addition to our house.

For a few days everything is ok, besides the fact that she's annoying beyond belief and NEVER BATHES (she's been here for over a week, almost two, and has taken TWO, count them TWO, showers to date). Don't want to be mean to the poor girl, after all she is just trying to fit in. So I try to incorporate her into my day, maybe help her settle into the house better. We went to the bank, the post office, campus, came home, went to work (I got her a job at the place I work...See, I've been trying my damndest to help her out and be nice, but no more..) and then came home.

This is where all the drama starts...

*BAM* Ten dollars missing out of my wallet. I only had $30 in cash (a $20 and a $10)...No one but Daisy knew I went to the bank, no one but Daisy knew I had money, and no one but Daisy saw where I put it when I got it.

Hmm...

Well, night before, I was getting something out of the freezer and one of my other roommies has some clear alcohol in an applejuice bottle.. It was "chinese firewater" or something. Well Daisy see's it in the freezer and asks why it isn't frozen (it looks like water). We explained to her that it was alcohol and she still said "Oh, ok, well why isn't it frozen??". Yes, she didn't know alcohol doesn't freeze. Fast forward a day or two - - Another roommie (We'll call her Carmen) had some Malibu rum. She was going to drink it and what does she find?? It's in the freezer.. FROZEN...Because someone had drank some and filled it back up with water.

Hmm...

Okay well since Daisy hasn't brought any of her stuff down other than clothes, she hasn't really 'moved in'. Just so happens that Daisy LOVES Carmen's room, and Carmen has always wanted the room that Daisy is supposed to move into. Well, they trade. Carmen moves all her stuff into what's supposed to be Daisy's new room. She accidentally left like two bottles of Febreeze and a change jar in her old room. Daisy is painting something in what is to be her new room. She's in there all night. You guessed it.. 2/3 of the change in Carmen's change jar... Gone.

Yesterday- - We were showing the house to a group of six people that want to rent it next year. They're upstairs looking at Mandi's room (Mandi was the one showing them around the house) and Daisy goes up too. Mandi also has a change jar in her room with some dollar bills in it as well, that she caught Daisy eyeballing. Daisy makes her way to that side of the room and is scoping it out. They're finished looking at the room and leaving to come back downstairs and Mandi's like "Daisy, c'mon, lets go.. out of my room".. And Daisy says "oh.. Um...I'll be down in a minute". And Mandi says "no, I don't like people in my room when I'm not in here, let's go".. Daisy says "oh ok, I was just looking at your CDs" and leaves.

Tonight...Kelly's parents are in town from out of state.. They make dinner for us, show us family video, all kinds of stuff.. Had a good time... Well Kelly's mom left her wallet out on the counter for like ...I don't know how long...Well she had $8 in her wallet... You guessed, she now has no cash.

Of course none of us really KNOW Daisy, but we also don't know what exactly to do.. Point the finger?? Set up a camera?? House meeting??

Thoughts?? Suggestions?? HELP!!!

I lived with a Daisy type once. Actually, she was more Single White Female without the murderous tendencies. :rolleyes:

Discuss the situation with the other roomies. In my experience, it doesn't get better, only worse. Don't let her move in or you will be subjected to this type of behavior for the length of the lease. You know how you feel now after barely two weeks. Imagine how you will feel in a few months. There is no reasoning with a person like "Daisy" so I wouldn't even try if I were you. I went through it myself, and I wish that I had moved out or had thrown her out of our home.

As for the lease, find a new person to take over her room. Your landlord can't force you to live with someone who steals and is a source of other problems. She will be a bad roommate as well as a bad tennant. Good luck!

Get everyone to confront her. She might be upset and hurt but she wil be more paranoid to try it again.

I agree with Cream. Don't let her move in! You and your other roommates should tell her what the deal is, and that she is no longer welcome to move into your place. I don't think that talking to her would do any good -- if she's so wack that she'd be stealing your stuff already, no amount of talking to her is going to make it any better.

Maybe you are just imagining things? I mean the girl has gone out of her way to steal all of 25 dollars, the price of a fast food lunch.

Maybe one of your other roomies are framing her?
But if you really think she is stealing you will have to not let her move in, you may have to reeimburse her the money though if the landlord isn't up for it.

I think you should kick her ass.

Where I'm from, violence is the answer to everything. I bet she never steals anymore from yall after your four girls beat her up.

imthechump, I do know where you are from, but get you head out of your rectoidal area!

Violence, just what the helll we need more of! NOT!

Get out of the Kid range and work on becoming an Adult at least partly!





If YOU can Prove theft, then dump her ass ASAP!

She sounds like a sponge of alien magnatude!

You dump her and no extra income, then you all pick up the xtra on the rent! Simple!:cool:

Your decision!;)

hey hon! you saw my instant message, but i do have a couple of other things to say.
i knew someone like that not too long ago. she's now homeless on the streets, but that's a whole long story. anyhow, she stole money from everyone she "befriended". she would basically con people into thinking she was this really nice fun person, then start stealing money or whatever else she could get her grubby hands on, and finally start telling lies about the person to anyone who would listen. she's now wanted by the cops.
i do suggest that if this persists, call the cops. file a report. take her to small claims court. if you can get proof that she is stealing then all the better. don't play around with this $h!t. like everyone else said, it will only get worse.

shelley j
sigma k

ps - i'm wondering if this is the same person that i know. instant messenge me when this stuff happens hon!

I'm sorry Tom Earp, but your post made no sense.

Yeah, you eventually get used to it. It's not going to stop because people actually defend it :rolleyes:

How did she become a roommate if no one really knows her? Was it like an ad in the paper that she became a roomie?

Here's the thing. I'd put locks on everyone's bedroom doors and have a house meeting about rules. My old roommies and I had a policy that if you eat it and it's not yours you replace it...if you want something though ASK. And of course make some ground rules for the tidiness of the house and party rules too.

I'd be sketchy too, but ulitmately it's up to the old roomies and yourself if this DAISY character should be allowed to stay.

But seriously...get locks on the doors. MUCH easier and better for everyone's safety (that way no one else could be blamed!

KLEPTO!

I knew a girl like this. She would steal anything if it wasn't nailed down, even stupid things like pencils and such, and when she wasn't stealing, she was lying about it. If I was in your situation, I would try to get rid of her now, as it might be easier now then later, and when things are worse and she knows where you hide all of your stuff. If you confront her, it probably won't do much good, she'll probably lie about it.

If you don't manage to get her out, then get locks and document when things are taken/missing etc... call the police if she doesn't stop the stealing.

It was online, it was through www.roommateservice.com ...But I can't knock it, because that's how I found this place too. Even if she had found us some other way and we didn't know her, we still probably would've had to let her in because we had no reason not to.

We already have locks on all the bedroom doors, and we've been using them. It just pisses me off that I can't go three blocks down the street to get a gallon of milk without worrying about someone snatching my $h!t. It's ridiculous.

Anyhow, nothing else has happened since Kelly's mom's wallet.. Daisy wanted me to ride with her home from work yesterday. Even though we both drove...She was going to the grocery store to cash her paycheck (she hasn't opened any accounts down here yet) and wanted me to go with her. I was like Dude, Daisy, Why would I ride with you to the store and then home and leave my car at work when I'm not even going to cash my check until Monday? And she was all like "Well I was going to cash my check so I figured you could too, with me". Wierdo.. Anyway...I've got to go geat ready for work..on a Sunday..*Sigh*

Edited to add: We are having a house meeting, but not until Weds whenever everyone is around. Right now is fall break for Ball State and a couple of the roommies aren't even in this state. But yes, everyone knows about all of it.. We just have to discuss what we're going to do about it.

When I moved to Austin I left my roommate to find another and she placed an ad online too and got a few responces.

I know I've told this story before, but it applies here too...she ended up getting this roommate that was fine at first but then a hundred dollars came up missing in her wallet (not smart on my old roommate's behalf).

Then in the middle of the night the girl packed up her stuff and moved out. My old roommate was devistated because she was stuck with rent she couldn't afford and so she had to break her lease!

You're lucky that at least you have mulitple roommates, but still...it's scary! Be careful!

Yes. And if people are lax about locking their doors and stuff gets stolen, they have no one to blame but themselves.