Need advice on what to do
 

I rushed this spring and checked out a couple of fraternities. I found two I really vibed with and attended most of their rush events. Fraternity 1 was smaller but filled with guys I really felt a personal connection to, they felt like a true brotherhood. Fraternity 2 is larger but there were only a few guys I felt a real personal connection to immediately. Both fraternities took a liking to me but fraternity 2 offered me a bid first. I decided to sign as I got along with a few of the guys, assumed it would get better as I got to know them, and they also seemed to have a lot of interest in me. Now a few weeks into pledging, I really haven’t formed much more of a connection with any of the guys. They seem to like me, but I just feel somewhat out of place. The first fraternity were cool when I told them I signed with another fraternity. I still say hi when I see them around. This leaves me with a few options, stay and hope it gets better, or drop. I’m over half way done with the process, and I’d also feel a level of guilt because I have formed a few close friendships. But I can’t stop thinking about how I may have made the wrong choice. I think about my rush experience with fraternity 1 and how much better it was. I also know that if I could go back in time I would’ve signed with fraternity 1. My main concern is if I dropped and rushed again, they’d resent me for them being my “second option”. To clarify, fraternity 2 aren’t bad guys. They’re great, I just don’t feel much of a personal connection. They also, despite being larger, seem to have less active brothers caring about events outside of parties. I need advice on what to do.

I tell new members that they have to be realistic when joining our organization. They see pictures on Insta and assume that everyone is instant friends. You get out of the organization what you put into it. You can't expect to get your bid and feel an instant connection. My children did sports in HS. I liken it to the awkward first practices you have as a freshman no really knowing anyone. When you are a senior after riding the bus together and laughing, winning and losing games, peeing in the woods together and bonding you feel so much different at your Senior banquet. You may not feel a true connection to this group after a few weeks. But, if you give it your heart and soul, you will feel so different as a graduate remembering all the shared experiences. Good luck.