Mean PMs
 

OK, I need to vent. Not everyone will understand this, but people from VSU and those involved on our campus will, which is what I'm hoping to acheive. BUT, others can probably learn from this. Just because someone asks about a rumor they've heard about specific chapters on campus DOES NOT mean you can send them nasty messages and say rude things to them. It is OK to ask questions without expecting to get your throat slit by members of that organization and people not even involved with that organization. I'm not even personally involved in this, but hearing about it has made me angry.

Before you send messages to others, please think about what you're saying and understand that people are curious about certain things. There is NOTHING wrong with asking a question! If you're mad because the rumor is floating, then you need to deflate it before it gets to people outside of the school. It makes you look even worse when you reply hatefully and rudely.

OK, I think that's all! I'm already prepared for the flood of PM's from VSU'ers that's gonna overflow my box.

The cure to this: If you recieve an unwelcomed PM, forward it to the public borads, that will stop em'!

I think if someone goes around telling people news she isn't even sure of, it hardly counts as "asking if a rumor is true." :rolleyes:

There's a difference between wondering about it and spreading false information.

Perhaps, instead of venting about it...you shoulda confronted that person instead of making it everyone's business. :rolleyes:

If everyone would have read the post, I said that I never got mean PMs from people. I said other people were and that I had heard about it from those people. Someone asked a question of someone in a specific org about their organization and got mean replies from people on GC. I just don't think it's fair to send people mean messages for asking a simple question.

No offense, but if the situation doesn't personally involve you, then why get involved in it? No one likes rumors or bad stuff that has been done to them or ppl they know period. But if you get yourself involved in whatever may be going on, not only may you be asking for trouble, but things could get worst for those already involved. Like Sandy said, whoever is doing what should be confronted. Bringing rocky situations to public view isn't the solution and definately wont make for a pretty scene.

I think this thread should be deleted. I am sure that everyone involved feels they are saying and doing what is right; to fix any miscommunications. Maybe this is not the way to resolve any problems. Everyone here is friends. Lets try to keep it that way. Amy can you delete this?

If the consensus feels that this thread should be deleted, then so be it...I'm fine with that.

I am not the sender of the mean and nasty PMs, but I have a good feeling I know what they were about.

I have no ill feelings toward anyone, but, VSUPhiMu, if someone has had a problem with those mean and nasty PMs, have that person deal with it.

This "rumor" was something that was definitely blown out of proportion and I'm thankful that IHQ was not involved when people decided to put 'loose lips' into action.

That's it from me. Have a nice day.

I do have to say, no matter what the subject, I think some GCers take the privacy of private messages too far, and think it's OK to be mean in them.

I'm not naming names, or talking about situations, but I have received a couple of mean PMs. I mean, it's preferrable to mean public posts, but I think some people take the fact that PM are unmoderated as an excuse to totally go off.

I see VSU's point, and I don't think anyone should be responding negatively to her.

I love how everytime someone on GC doesn't like what someone else has to say, they call for the deletion of the person's post. Why don't we all grow up and act like adults. I never even mentioned what the spefic rumor was, so no one even knows what I'm talking about except for a few of ya'll. I also never mentioned any names, so why would the people sending mean messages be offended or embarrassed?

And let me make it clear, I NEVER SPREAD NEWS ABOUT ANYTHING TO ANYONE! I was simply saying that NO ONE on GC should be sending rude PMs to people for asking about a chapter. What's the big deal with that? Is it too much to ask that we're nice to each other and respect each other?

No, it's not too much to ask.

And this is for all of GC, and not directed to you in any way, VSUPhiMu--

Not spreading false rumors is a good start. Respect can be gained from that.